What on earth is going on.....need some advice please

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Thanx for all your input....I really appreciate it! Yes...I wish they could just play at my house, we've got wonderfull things they can play, but like you said, it's so difficult because when he goes to play there, it's not always planned. They start off scate boarding and when I look for him they are in their house, ect. And yes like you said...he doesn't even have to see the movies, only listening to them gives him enough to ponder on!

Not to be a dissenter, but honestly, I think that you, as his parent, get to decide who he plays with, where he worships, and what he wears. He's SEVEN. No, you cannot force him to believe in one religion or another, but a seven-year-old doesn't get to decide not to go to church if his family is going. He doesn't get to choose his own clothes, if he's not paying for them. You're his parent. You decide. That's what a parent does.

Actually, somebody else mentioned that Attwood talks about this...it's a not uncommon way that some Aspies deal with bullying. See if any of this fits the situation: http://bit.ly/q0MWno I think that while it probably isn't true that your son is homicidal or satanic, these things aren't nothing. He may be asking for help - and barring that, he may be trying to make himself too scary to bully. Sadly, what MagicMeerkat says is also true: the very things he's using to try to keep the bullies away may make him more of a target.

My son's version was all about guns, military weapons, spying, sneak attacks, etc. and wore camouflage or black to school whenever he could. We indulged my son by half-measures: for instance, our house rule is no same-color tops and bottoms, which meant he didn't go to school in 100% battle gear or black. We then worked really hard on the bullying from the school end; eventually, it took a conference with the Principal and Vice-Principal who took action. My son's obsessions with guns and military stuff have not lessened, but the slightly hysterical edge they had before has gone away.

Pandora Box and SuperTrouper, knowing a little of both your back stories I find your responses quite interesting (meaning, Pandora essentially raised himself and his siblings, and if I read between the lines correctly SuperTrouper seems to have the kind of Mom I hope to be at some point; I wish she gave lessons.) I kind of agree with both of you: I think fostering some self-expression in a seven-year-old is a good thing, but I do think that part of the job of a parent is to set limits.

I am realizing my thoughts are coming out garbled today. I hope this makes sense.