How do your daughters dress?

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I think there was a streetwalker "look" in the media for awhile with shorts over tight leggings with eye-catching shoes. I'm guessing it was just that the particular combo was reminicent of that look -- if any of the 3 items had been different or absent the outfit wouldn't have drawn comment. Or if the leggings were a color that was closer to the blue in the shoes (blue, black, grey) -- it's the contrast between the blue shoes and the pink leggings that catches attention.

The construction of the shoes (a little hard, not super flexible) makes them more "dressy" -- suitable for dresses -- which can make them a mismatch for the casualness of leggings. Generally leggings are worn under dresses or a long shirt or tunic that is long enough to cover the butt.

IMO there is nothing wrong with the way your daughter is dressed in those pictures. It reminds me of my own daughter.

Regarding leggings and bike shorts: my daughter will not wear much else. She will not wear jeans or any kind of "stiff" pants or any pants with closing apparatuses on them. My rule is: if the t-shirt is form fitting or does not cover her butt, she has to wear a skirt with the leggings/bike shorts. She can only wear "just" leggings/bike shorts if her shirt covers her butt and is preferably loose, or at least loos-er.

When she does wear a dress or skirt (which is often) she wears...I don't know what they are called, but they look like bike shorts only with shorter legs...under them. Or, I make her her skirts with shorts sewn into them.

Now that she is 9, she is getting breast buds, so she wears a bra that is pretty much like a tiny athletic bra.

I think parents have often looked at my daughter strangely because of her clothing choices. She wears a lot of skirts and mismatched prints and has an "eclectic" kind of taste. Up until this last year she liked to wear the wildest tights I could possibly find. I used to literally scour the internet looking for funky tights. It's how she likes to dress, though, and I let her, provided she follows certain rules like those I have stated above. I happen to suspect that some of the girls in her class wish they could dress like her

i love girl but i don't have one . dress her in different ways as she likes .it will be wonderful

Raising kids is filled with people who are going to judge and complain NO MATTER WHAT YOU DO.

I can't count the times I've been griped at for:

Dressing my kids out of thrift stores

Letting my girls wear tank tops (to the park, in the middle of an Arkansas summer, which if you don't know is crushingly humid and hot, hot, hot)

Letting them swim in batting suits

Letting them swim in shorts and t shirts

Letting my girls wear pants/shorts

Skirts too short/too long

Little girls in heels (my six year old has the same godforsaken Elsa heels)

Little girls in sneakers

Clothes too tight

Clothes too baggy (by the same person)

Screw it. As long as I can't see the outline of their genitals, no butt cheeks are hanging out, and their little proto-boobies are covered (and the clothing is appropriate to the weather and started the day off clean), I don't care. When they go to school, it must also meet the dress code and be in good repair-- and after that, I don't care.

So the Fashion Police are going to get on us-- I don't care. When the kids care, they ask for different clothes and start paying more attention to what they wear. If they don't care, I don't care. I had these kids to raise them, not to satisfy the fashion tastes of every acquaintance, obscure relative, and playground nibshit.

I think she looks fine in all of those outfits, but I do know there are parts of the country where think straps and shoulders are considered immodest. And some parts of the country where shirt length is a big issue, needing to stay at the knees or below. Also be aware that glitter and jewels can also have different effects on different outfits: what looks like Disney on a fairy tale outfit, can look like trashy on a T-shirt.

Overall, I think the clothes that many stores sell for young girls ARE trashy. There has been little at Kohl's, for example, that I am comfortable with my daughter wearing. When they take a style that is meant to look sexy on an adult, and then copy it for little ones, it just feels very wrong to me.

My favorite store for clothes when my daughter was young was Gymboree, although they aren't immune to questionable trends like single shoulder shirts.

I have never been fond of bike shorts for kids, although there are times they are quite practical. My daughter did wear a lot of leggings, but they were always loose on her, and paired with a longer, looser top.

Now in High School, my daughter is all T-shirts (LOOSE) and jeans.

But we live in a pretty much anything-goes area. I'm appalled seeing some of the things the girls in the High School wear, to be honest. I'd rather my daughter dress a little nicer, but not if that would mean backless or spaghetti strap dresses showing her bra.

If you are worried about it, the idea of letting her shop with another family is a good one.

Long run, if you are happy, she is happy, and the school dress code has been met, then it doesn't matter what anyone else thinks.

My 7 year old (dxed ASD) does not care what her clothes look like. She wants them comfy, so mostly wears sweat pants (jeans are too uncomfortable and stiff), yoga pants, t-shirts. If she wears a skirt or dress she must have bike shorts or leggings because she doesn't sit properly. But how the clothes look? Doesn't care, in fact I'm pretty sure she rather shop in the boys section. Also if there is any bling on her clothes like gems, glitter, or sequins she will destroy it. She'll pick at it and mess with it till it's wrecked. Or she'll cry if it's itchy.

My 5 year old (not sure, ADHD or ASD, going through process) is a little more tolerant of textures and a little more girly, but still cries over tags and some textures. Also she likes wearing boys underwear.

I define "trashy" in regards to a child as follows : if it would look sexy or cringey on an adult then its trashy for a child. So for me, a lot of Halloween costumes and girls bathing suits fall into the trashy category. So if the costume is just a short little tutu and a bodice with some wings, I picture a 30 year old wearing it and yup, trashy. Most girls shorts I consider trashy. I only buy my kids shorts thatcome a bit closer to the knee. But that's just me, everyone is different. I have lots of mom friends who dress their daughters in what I consider to be a very very trashy way and I just keep my opinion to myself. As I know they think I dress my kids "messy" as I no longer worry about nice outfits since all they really want is comfort.