Step-parenting and Aspie????! !! !!

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Nope sorry, maybe if that worries you just send him to one of the quicker camps .

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I talked to the camp today and asked about the "phone call thing", that is wierd, I understand it's hard to get work done with parents calling all the time but I wouldn't feel comfortable if they didn't have an open door policy.

They said we could contact him any time and can come and visit, they siad it's just hard if parents are calling all the time. Interestingly enough, when we talked to my son last night about the camp posibility one of the things he liked best was that we would not be there!! ! Funny, since he even calls me from school several times per week.

I think we might continue to look at it seriously. It's a lot of $$$$ but when I think of all that we spend on things we don't need I think we can cut back and do it. I just hope it is a amazing and empowering experience for him. I'll let you know.

I have been in a same sex relationship in which my partner adopted the Bio
Mom's child; in fact, she paid for the sperm.

I really love my partner, and I am starting to resent that the two "mothers" are anything but...this AS child is the obsession of both of the mothers.

I was asked if I wanted to take the child to a play when my partner was at
work; I did and the Bio Mom proceeded to bang on my partner's apartment and
beat her and I up; the sad part is that she is a licensed therapist working
with children and this all occured when the child was being put to sleep. I
intervened to the child to calm his fears and redirect the situation. The
problem is that when she finally left; she came back and was allowed back
into the home to say "nite-nite". Needless, to say, I had to be given a
tranquilizer because I was in shock.

To compound my injury, my partner would not allow me to talk about this and
told me not to discuss this in front of the child; I immediately left and
have been out of work, going to therapy, on medication, and working on
separating from this person.

I don't want to be in the drama. Both mothers come from an abused
background and are reliving their childhood through this entitled, indulged,
disrespectful, and self-absorbed little person. This isn't a perception, and from what I have read on AS, it fits his profile but I am not sure that it is due to bad parenting.

He is allowed sugar at all times of the day and night; has no boundaries in stores or
people's homes, breaks all expensive electronic equipment of my partner's
and she questions if I did it; and climbs all over the furniture. He is
someone that I am having a hard time with because of his disrespect to me and my
family. He is never told "no". My girlfriend accuses me of hating
children. My answer is that I like well behaved children and I have clear
limits on what children should be allowed.

This little guy likes me and I am very good with him as I teach him how to
cook and draw and play games with him. My maternal instincts are there but
are not recognized as such. Their love consists of giving prizes for going
to the bathroom.

I love her but know this is a hard road when I have a partner who doesn't communicate, wants me to relocate while she travels 50% of the time, and she is involved in a hateful relationship
in which the Bio Mom states that since she bore the kid, he is hers.
Coincidentally, I emailed Bio Mom and told her that I would back out and she
could have her family back if she did not show this violence; I love my
partner but see the need for two parents. Her response was that I wrote a
novel; and that I should not commmunicate to her on this level again.

Bottom line is that I love my partner and have educated myself on this child's handicaps and strengths, but I have no say as a "step-parent" in a same sex situation. Any suggestions?