How do you get your child to do schoolwork AT school??

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Maybe they are just not ready to write full sentences yet. It would be better to get them doing individual letters and words first and then work up to sentences. Plus, I think school time is school time and home time is home time!

I agree with school work for school and home is for whatever. When Pop was sent home early at the crap school, I directed his remaining school work but only during school hours. (he'd come home just afternoon)
These days they send home homework, which is ridiculous for primary grades. I wouldn't add on to it.

Yes, sounds fair to me.

But he is not doing the work at school, therefore he wouldn't be doing any school work or home work. I have it worked out with this teachers that I will spend a half hour on school work with him, that is enough for them to know that he "gets" the concept and if it is not all done he is not penalized for it.

The school day, with all of its distractions could be too long for him to do the work he is supposed to there. if you aren't willing to have him finish it all at home then you should speak to the school about sending him for only half days and having a private tutor for the other half.

*I've yet to see a school district where a student can't be failed because he doesn't do the work, either in the class, or at home and bring it back.

for now he is finishing it at home, but I have considered only sending him for maybe 4 days instead of all 5, but I never thought about doing a 1/2 day. Also, his resource teacher said she could work it out for him to come to her class to do the work if it continues to be a problem. Lately he has been better about it though, he wants his TV and computer time when he gets home.

I am an anomaly among AS individuals. The more substantial the work, the better I did. I used to do reports on fairly long books (up to 300 pages), but had a near meltdown and couldn't think of a thing to write when asked to write a paragraph on some subject I considered an inane waste of time. I also loathed mindless busywork such as coloring in things on a math assignment. The work part was actually fun for me, while the "fun" part was a hassle.

I used to get bored and want to do more complicated work.

clear consequences for refusal to work need to be set....a calm discussion with him, during a calm period of time ( NOT in the midst of the refusal to work) would be best. even better if he can help make some decisions about the consequences. talk to him as if he's an adult~ "I realize you've been having trouble completing your work, so together we will work to help figure out what we can do to fix this problem."
if he's not of the ability to work out a solution together ( or if the teacher's not willing to do this), then it's up to you as a parent to help the situation. what about a reward system at home for completion of school work? no punishment for not completing work~just reward for completing it. the rewards don't have to be anything much. just enough to get him motivated to work. for instance, you could give him extra computer time for completing his work.

Ster, we employed rewards for completing basic tasks and it heightened his anxiety. Also, immediately after getting the reward, he started "acting out". The dangling carrot just contributed too much to anxiety.
It would be awful to actually have to discipline him because of a reward-anxiety. Just nuts.
We also found that school staff would learn of the reward system and use it to threaten him during the day. "YOu won't get your computer time" Absolutely off-limits for them to discuss his homelife. I have to set limits on what they know about and say to him.

At 7, we are reinforcing the need to "get along". Tasks need to be done to "help others" and to stay on schedule. We have found that allowing a huge break afterschool until dinner helps Pop destress.

Well, here it is 822PM and I have to finish yet another document for work, and I can't get myself to start it, much less finish it...after years, I know my job depends on it, therefore, I will eventually around 1AM get myself to actually do it...

With that said, I remember the days of doing no schoolwork at school...I remember the days of doing zero homework, because I just could not get myself to do it...Thankfully, I got by with good grades in tests, etc...but I exceeded in French, because my teacher was smart enough to realize that I did NOT need to do the schoolwork to learn...therefore, she allowed me to get by without doing a single assignment, EVER, and just take tests...I got 100s every single year I took French. Even received a President's Award for it...

With that said, I wish I had some suggestions...but sadly, I don't...but just want to let you know that I understand it must be hard for you as a parent, especially with all that is required nowadays...but I think that unless he is failing the classes, teachers do need to be much more accomodating.

his teachers are, they do let him give verbal answers. But at some point he has to at least write his name!! But he is doing much better and is cooperating more.

trial and error