My son has been dressing in his mom's clothes

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Love can never be an evil.

Love defeats ignorance, despair, sickness, and death.

Thats quite a gross exageration based on commonly held cliches. There is nothing about dressing in the opposite sex clothes in itself that has anything to do with exploring sexual feelings or being gay.

Just as there is nothing about being transgendered that means you have to like people who are of a certain sex for romantic relationships

There was a time it was considered wrong, disgusting, a sexual iindentity crisis etc if a woman wore pants. But there were brave souls who knew better than that, and went out and dressed the way they preferred, and thats why its okay for women to wear whatever they want know. Men are just starting to do the same. I think the first time I saw a man in women's clothes was about 2 years, but now I've seen over a dozen. I've been places with men dressed in women's fashions hundreds of times (largely because i'm dating a man who prefers to dress that way). Only the ignorant think twice about it and more often than not the ignorant is someone old enough to have lived when it was frowned on fir women to wear pants. In other words, someone with enough life experience that there is no possible valid excuse for them to have a single negative thought about the scenario. Most people don't even bother a second glance, let alone try to treat him any differently. Young people in their twenties, often don't notice until someone points it out to them

I think I might notice. I'm not blind, nor am I stupid.

Then why would you notice?

Aside from it being the first time you would have seen it, the only reason to "notice" is to be intentionally, ignorant or rude. I saw hundreds of outfits today. The only one that caught me eye was because someone sent their 5 year old to school in an outfit that had phat written over it a hundred times (can't believe the school even allowed that given what the most common accepted definition is for phat in this area). i couldn't begin to recall the other outfits.

I would think you would want to be considered intelligent enough and observant enough to notice the person you are talking to rather than preferring to focus on something thats completely extraneous to whatever you were doing at the time or wanted the person for.You wouldn't notice if it wer a girl, so why would you even want to notice if it were a guy

I would notice because it is a man dressed as a woman.

Kind of hard to miss that, even post-op.

Do you think crossdressers are somhow invisible? The disguise is never a convincing disguise. You really would have to be blind to not notice a 6'1" 200 lb. man in a miniskirt, stiletto heels, and a blonde wig.

Transvestisism and cross-dressing is not uncommon and sounds like you are having a mere fear of what is unknown to you.

Just a thought here, but aspies tend to be VERY interested in things they are interested in. Perhaps he has just become interested in girls and all things girl-related? I don't know. Have you considered talking gently to him about it? My toddler son loves dress up heels, scarves and all the fancy things his big sister puts in her hair. Curiosity is natural at any age, and I guess I'd consider it that until it posed some problem.

The problem with folks like slowmutant is that he is only speaking from personal opinion apparantly not based upon any experience with the subject matter.

He does this with any issue on WP concerning sexuality and/or gender.

There are others also that take the same approach... answer a question with unsubstantiated comments which form the basis of attack towards a group of people.

His comments here are basically meaningless in regards to the what the OP is looking for.

I found many other comments here quite interesting and very worthwhile, though.

And cross-dressing, too, I suppose...

How can I offer anything but my own opinion?

By offering factual information as well?

slowmutant... when you say things like...

although this may be your opinion, it does not offer anything to the conversation at hand.
Nor does it offer an answer to the question posted originally.

You make claims which you cannot back up with experience nor facts.

I do believe you could have some really great things to add to many of the threads here on wrong planet, but most of what I see you post is just personal diatribe.
I admit that I do this same thing sometimes, but I try to catch it and correct it.

Anyway... no hard feelings from my end, and I'll try to refrain from any personal attacks towards you.

You'd never know it if you didn't notice and thus you'd unknowingly perpetuate your delusions.

Btw, I've been mistaken for a woman without even trying to look like one.

Slowmutant and I think Oscuria both have this thing about using the example of a 6' 200lb man dressing as a woman and being easy to spot.

I know from being involved in the local transgendered community that this is not the norm.
There are plenty of transsexuals both MtoF and FtoM who pass quite well and I have no reason to believe these guy here can spot those people.

But it sounds better to bash people when you exaggerate things I guess.

I realize I am party to the group who is taking over this thread... I apologize to the OP.

I will make no more comments in this thread unless it refers directly back to the OP.

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I have no factual information on that subject.