Santa Discussion

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Lucymac
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26 Dec 2008, 9:53 pm

I say keep the magic alive as long as possible if it isn't traumatizing or upsetting your child. Life is so cruel and there is so little magic/spirit, especially as we age. Why not have some faith and believe in something we cannot see yet warms our hearts? I tell my eleven year-old aspie (hasn't been officially diagnosed but fairly certain) that the spirit of Santa exists and always will in your heart. Honestly she probably believes 50% and wants to the other. We actually made a photo at a photoshop this year of Santa in our living room but it didn't blow her mind like we thought. She said that Santa was too posed to be the real thing? My DH and I were astounded with the technology but she was doubtful! Anyway it's up to you and I truly believe each child is different and the circumstances are due to time, emotional state, etc. Good luck and know that as a parent you cannot do wrong if you do anything with love.

ripcity
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27 Dec 2008, 5:54 am

This is a realy good question. Santa, The Tooth Fary and The Easter Bunny are all a part of growing up for a lot of children, but at some point we realize that none of these are real.
10 even as young as 7 or 8 is a good age for the myth(s) to be replaced by the truth. However I think that your daughter or any child needs to com to this on their own. You should drop hints. I don't know what kind of hints. It is also ok for a friend or older sibling of theirs to tell them. The descovery that Santa as well as The Easter Bunny and The Tooth fariy are not real are part of growing up.

Crocodile
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27 Dec 2008, 8:05 am

I was told it all doesn't exist at the age of 9. I was very disappointed that there were no magical things and miracles like santa, but I didn't show my devastatoin to my parents and I didn't cry. It was a disappiontment, but it didn''t give me a trauma. I think you should just tell her in a nice and gentil way. In a week it'll probably be over. Good luck.

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27 Dec 2008, 1:31 pm

Lucymac say's: I tell my eleven year-old aspie (hasn't been officially diagnosed but fairly certain) that the spirit of Santa exists and always will in your heart. _ That's a good idea and I think, beautiful to say

DwightF
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27 Dec 2008, 6:12 pm

BoringAl wrote:

I played Santa once at a party for a friends family. A little boy looked me in the eyes and said "I love you Santa" and gave me hug.

LOL, well when I put on the fat suit (I still needed it then

) for a work run kid's party my oldest, only about 2 1/2 at the time, FREAKED RIGHT OUT hearing Dad's voice coming from Santa.

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30 Dec 2008, 4:28 am

Fascinating. I am reminded of a certain philosopher's letter to his son. I scanned it, and I'll show you the letter.

http://img196.imagevenue.com/img.php?im ... 2_83lo.jpg
http://img224.imagevenue.com/img.php?im ... 22_2lo.jpg
http://img234.imagevenue.com/img.php?im ... 2_24lo.jpg

I hope that this will be as useful to you as it was to me. 'T is a truly wonderful letter.

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