Mom and Dad not Mommy and Daddy

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37 years old here, from the north, NT, bunch of degrees, living independently since 18 and financially self-sufficient since age 22. Still call my parents mommy and daddy. Why? Because I love and trust them now the same way I did when I was 3. They are still who I turn to for advice when I don't know what to do. And my mommy still rubs my back (when she's in town) when I am sad. And that is beautiful, and what I hope to share with my ASD children.

I call iParents iMother and iFather.
They seem to like these names a lot.

Here in Oz it's Maaam and Daaad....

I still call my parents 'mommy' and 'daddy'. One part is because of strict routine and resistance to change. The other part is due to having a degree of intellectual impairment as well. It's something I just can't help because in my mind, I'm still very child-like and having that sense of childishness comforts me. They don't really seem to mind because they know much more about my special needs than others do.

Whether or not this is a big deal depends in part on the gender of the child, the region in which the child lives, and perhaps the child's socio-economic status. For example, a Southern female calling her father "Daddy" probably wouldn't raise many eyebrows, even if she was an adult.
My son is nine, and I do worry a little that other kids will hear him calling me "Mommy" and ridicule him. But since I recently saw him stick his hands down his pants and then put his fingers in his mouth, I think I'll concentrate on that issue for now.