Heart Breaking Tonight for Son

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Thank you!

You are right, it is idiotic!

The note the teacher wrote home indicated that "he was just generally taping" and that the "other kids are worried that he was taping".

Well, he wasn't, if she listened, she would have heard that! But even if he was, the fact that the abuse did start, I think still provides just cause.

It was them that suggested the Tape Recorder in the first place! Of course the other kids are going to react, it is there job to control the other kids, not listen to them! Pfft.

And just why are all these kids so concerned that my son may be recording them anyway? Do they have something to hide? Because they never "talk" about anything they want him overhearing anyway. He is already pretty ostrisized....

It's too difficult for them to control the other kids, it's easier to break the victim. The kids are afraid they'll be taped and reported, oh the poor babies! Well of course the school doesn't want to hear their parents, complaning that their obviously spoilt brats shouldn't have to owe up to their behaviour.

Have you considered talking to the vice principal about giving him back the tape recorder?

I talked again to the principle. He told me that he is talking to the main instigators and they are being “consequenced”. Also, if anything continues, then they will be taking progressively harsher action with them, right up to and including suspension. He seems really committed, and wants to talk to my son to make him understand that he is to come to him with anything he wants too. He is also going to be talking to the teachers about making sure he is partnered in the class with people who are not hostile towards him, as getting them to work together is just not going to work.

He is also going to get the recorder back, for use at school and home. He was frustrated that my son was never given a “protocol” to follow, on when to use it or not use it, and agreed that he would not be able to just “know” that. He seems to have a pretty good understanding of what AS is. I was impressed with that. He also agrees that the teacher keeping it all the time, and my son having to “ask” for it is not going to work, because my son won’t self advocate. So, he is going to get it back, to use in class and bring home, with the understanding that he is not supposed to record conversations of his class mates, or record whole lessons. He also should pass it off to a teacher if he is leaving the class, for recess, bathroom breaks etc. But will get it back at the end of day.

He can record a direct instruction he is given one on one, and then replay it with headphones if he forgets. (like if shown how to do something in math one on one, or a verbal instruction of what to do with the paper he is assigned.) I like this for homework too. Also, he can give verbal recordings for answers, both at home and at school.

I am still going to have a sit down with him later in the week, with my husband, and told him he will not be returning until the 18th. Basically because the VP is not done talking to all teachers today, won’t be until tomorrow, I want a sit down first, and he has an appointment on Thursday, so sending him back for just one day is dumb, as we still plan to take a vacation the following week. He agreed.

I wish I talked to him a long time ago. I am frustrated I was not directed to him sooner!

Thanks to all who have lent a listening ear to my ongoing “saga”.