My son's class picture

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My son went on a class trip to my state's capital and took a big class picture in front of the building. It's crazy how if you didn't know he was autistic, you'd know it by the picture. He's standing apart from the group and facing slightly away from the camera eye! Unbelievable!...autism in pictures! I felt mad at him but that's the way he is. He'll take a fine picture alone though

Hey, at least you can always easily tell him apart from a sea of faces.

Oh, come on, mad at him for looking autistic? How silly is that? It's like getting mad at a redhead for looking like he's got red hair.

No, mad that he is apart from the group and not looking towards the camera. I think it's secondary that she realized it also made him look autistic.

I can relate. At my son's kindergarten graduation, the kids first sang some songs. Nate has actually started to sing and do the hand motions. He was placed in the back far left. He is very small compared to the other kids, so I was surprised that he wasn't at least in the front. All the other shorter kids were in the front. He then stood apart from other kids although he typically stands next to him. I am fine with him standing apart if that is what makes him feel comforable. I was upset they put him in the back where it's difficult to see him.

Then when the teacher said good things about each kid, Nate's was the shortest by far. The teacher said at least two paragraphs about the other kids and only two sentences about Nate. At least he didn't notice. I was very upset.

In the actual pictures, though, he is usually standing in front.

natesmom: I would have been furious about the teacher's slight. Hopefully your son will get a more enlightened instructor next year.

So much has happened this year. We are pulling him out of the private school and putting him in the school I work in. I get to pick the teachers and will be there at least two to three days a week. It will hopefully be a much better situation

Private schools are notoriously close-minded about stuff like that given the fact that money often makes it work. Unless you donate a lot of money *Cough* bribe *cough*, they'll likely ignore the slight.

I mean...when I went to private school it was 5k a term. But there were a thousand kids in high school alone. If I left, the loss of fees might not be that noticeable.

Public schools however...they thrive on results to get government handouts AFAIK so they'll delegate more attention to the obviously gifted students (HFA's) because they're well aware of their genius-level intellects.

I myself loathe photo's. I never look right in them, hate the flash and just dislike the thought of someone capturing my image. Makes me uncomfortable.

I frankly think you should be glad your son was in the photo. I know I skipped out on a lot of photo's.

Private schools are notoriously close-minded about stuff like that given the fact that money often makes it work. Unless you donate a lot of money *Cough* bribe *cough*, they'll likely ignore the condition.

I mean...when I went to private school it was 5k a term. But there were a thousand kids in high school alone. If I left, the loss of fees might not be that noticeable.

Public schools however...they thrive on results to get government handouts AFAIK so they'll delegate more attention to the obviously gifted students (HFA's) because they're well aware of their genius-level intellects.

I myself loathe photo's. I never look right in them, hate the flash and just dislike the thought of someone capturing my image. Makes me uncomfortable.

I frankly think you should be glad your son was in the photo. I know I skipped out on a lot of photo's.

He "has" red hair!! !!

I've noticed the same thing in CME's pictures with his class. At Halloween, he was off to the side, obviously not wanting to be near the costumes the others were wearing. At Christmas, it was the same thing. Him off to the side, with his hands held carefully beside himself, to avoid touching anyone. Or with his hands up to avoid someone touching him. At the Easter party, all the other kids looked at the camera, holding up their basket and smiling. CME was holding up his basket with one hand, and covering his eyes from the sunshine with his other arm!

By himself, he's usually very photogenic with his handsome smile and twinkly eyes. But in a group, it's very obvious that he's the oddball.

Wow, this is very interesting. Ive never heard of this before. I can understand not looking directly at someone's eyes, because it makes me feel uncomfortable too...but not looking at the camera lense is just weird. Is this more common than I thought? I also really hate it when people take my picture, but ill still look at the camera.

I have a few pictures of my son, in pre-k and in high school...where one can really tell. He completely has body language that pulls away from the group.