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My childrens first day of chool was today and as I was waiting for James to exit, there was a parent requesting that her son be moved away fom James. She said that her son was in James's class two years ago and that her son did not like mine so all they did was fight. So if this is happening now, whats gonna happen in a few years. Ugh

Sorry to hear that. Of course, if all they do really is to fight, keeping away from the child will be better for your son, as well. As long as that parent doesn't pin the blame on your child, and keeps it in the tone of a personality conflict, others should not follow suit. Your son can and should find kids he can get along with. It only takes 1 to have a friend.

Yes it is good to keep them away if they are fighting. The actual problem started cause the boy drew on James's paper and would always invade his space. The main reason why I was a little upset is because James is being totally mainstreamed and I have been having major issues with the school. They do not understand his issues and will never let him be himself. I have been fighting with them over the I.E.P since last school year because they have him as emotionally impaired. And I was being called to the school about 3 times a week for every little thing that he would do that they didn't like. He is not physical or disruptive to the other students. He just has some sensory issues and wants his things to be left alone. So when he goes into a meltdown or doesnt fully participate they will physically pick him up and put him in the office sometimes for the whole day.

They main reason that it upset me earlier was because I know the other students see James as being differnt and I have had quite a few Iin the past couple years that said, James talks to himself, James makes noises all the time, James is wierd.

I just feel bad for the little guy.

Well sorry this is so long.
And Thank You for letting me vent!! !

Vent away!

Kids that age need to be educated to accept others who are different, and that process involves parents, teachers, everyone. Talk to the other parents and let them know that you don't expect their kids to magically like your son, but that you expect the parents to teach their kids to accept his differences. ALL children deserve to be accepted as who they are, period.

The school should not be sending your son out of the room for not fully participating. They should allow him to leave of his own choice when he is feeling overwhelmed. If you can't get them to work with him appropriately, I would seriously look at options for different schooling.

Sigh. Easier said than done.

I loved our elementary school, but middle school is involving more battles. At least people take what I say seriously, I have to give them that, even when sometimes the answer is, "we can't do that."

I totally agree, but I do not think that alot of parents teach thier kids to be very openminded which is very unfortunate. Thats why I was hoping the school would put that he is autistic in his I.E.P. If they did so he would be able to go into the autism classrooms(which are already placed at his school) for atleast 20 minutes a day. I would like him to be around other children who may have some of the same traits as he does. But the school is unwilling.

James was just diagnosed in May from a neurologist at childrens hospital. Some of his issues are very minor (having the need to pick up tiny pieces of paper off the floor, not wanting to sit on the carpet but fully participating) compaired to some of the other childrens disruptive behavior. And he is being removed on a regular basis and they wonder why he never gets his work done.

I have 5 children and I can not afford privte school of any sort and any of the publc schools need a referal and need him to be diagnosed at the school level already.I would love to have him out of that school.

Ohh sometimes I wonder how come they expect so much out of children when teachers/school can not comprehend and accommodate such trivial things.
They are so overwhelmed with the programs and tasks that global picture escapes them completely. Of course there are some great teachers here and there.

I am trying to concentrate on important things and fight just couple of important battles with the system. That way you won't be an annoying parent that they won't even listen. If you can find an ally there, like a one teacher, social worker or someone who can stand by you for some of your battles that would be great.

My son is at a private school and he broke down crying during homework two days ago.

He felt picked on because the kid next to him said to the teacher... "I think you should move Kaelan to the end of the line".

and the teacher, not his normal one but a stand-in, said "ok... that sounds like a good idea".

We would have complained but after talking to him the next day we managed to get a response when we said...

"Were you annoying that boy?"

He know that he was annoying the boy. He thought it was fun/normal because he's not picking up the non-verbal signals which say "stop it".

Changing schools won't make a difference and in the end, I actually think that in my son's case, his being moved was for the best. It probably prevented a fight.

Sure, it made him feel bad about himself but he does need to learn to watch for those signals. He's not going to learn that without encouragement or consequences.

I sympathize with your position but ultimately, the move is probably for the best. There's no sense in putting children together if they get on with eachother. Your son might find that he gets moved next to a kindred spirit. Someone who can be a proper friend for him.