How long does it take your child to do homework?

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For both your NT and AS children does one take longer than the other and how do you get them to do there work? My Psychology teacher said do it for example (an hour take a 15-30min break repeat) Sadly my parents are the GET YOUR HOMEWORK DONE NOW OMG YOU'VE BEEN DOING IT FOR NEARLY 3 HOURS!! etc. (example sisters get home at 3PM it's now going on 6PM and the 10yr. old STILL isn't done) (This is a common occurrence but I keep my mouth shut but was curious about parents on WP and how they deal with the homework issue for there NT or even AS child and how they defer etc.

BTW 7PM and they finally got done also dad is harsh sometimes (called the 10yr. old an idiot and that she'd grow up to be a garbage man) My parents can be harsh but like I said I keep my mouth shut.

I really hope your parents don't really say half the things you say they've said. Not that I don't believe you, but teens can see things in a bit of a distorted way - it's the nature of being a teen - and I prefer that idea to thinking they really are that horrible. But maybe they are. I can't imagine calling my kids idiots or worse. It's just something a parent should NOT do.

To answer the question, both my kids have trouble getting homework done in an efficient manner, and even when working hard they tend to take longer than average. It seems to be a processing speed issue, even though both have high IQ's. My daughter's homework for 3rd grade is supposed to take 30 minutes a day on average, but it usually takes her an hour or an hour and a half. She is pretty good at sitting down and getting started, however, its just that she tends to wander while working (NT possible ADD).

My son (AS now in 7th grade) can spend hours freaking out about doing 30 minutes of work, and that issue is related to his AS. For the routine stuff this isn't usually a problem anymore, but for larger assignments it still is. We have to break things down into pieces for him and bascially bribe him into taking the first step, then gently lead him to the second, and so on.

Kids who can't sit down and get it done need assistance developing the work habits and/or overcoming hurdles. No amount of yelling will give them missing tools, if there are missing tools.

One thing I've posted here before, and that I found really helpful, was to end homework by the clock instead of by the assignment. One of my son's teachers suggested this, and it really helped both of my children improve their work habits. Since the standard for 3rd grade, for example, is supposed to be 30 minutes, you can tell the child that IF they stay focused and work hard for 30 minutes, then you will sign off as done, period. It takes away that, "its going to take hours" perception, because it won't take hours - it will take 30 minutes, end of story.

In our school district the homework standard is as follows:

Elementary: 10 minutes per grade level per night (Mon - Thurs)
Middle School: 60 - 90 minutes per night; possibly going up to 2 hours for 7th and 8th graders (Mon - Thurs)

My first grader takes forever to do her homework. It is definitely a processing thing. She also really struggles with focus. If it's remotely hard, she doesn't want to try at all. It's very frustrating...and I admit that I have gotten upset with her about it before, but I would never call her an idiot. She is very easily distracted and often I find her playing while she's supposed to be doing homework. Then when she actually does it, she tends to fly through and do it sloppily. Tonight, we had to go back through and rewrite everything because it was illegible. She does well with a timer as well. Tonight, I said "I'm going to the bathroom. See if you can finish it by the time I get back." (It was one page of greater than numbers, so pretty easy). I did a few things, went to the bathroom and she came flying in, saying "I'm done! I'm done!" Granted, she did miss a few and forgot to write a few things down, but still, it got her moving.

Thanks for the clock idea. I might just start a timer for her.

My daughter has AS by the way and is 7 years old.

would that be after he finally stops the screaming or including the screaming? after is really quick he is smart when he just gets to it.