*Gender Construction, Non-Conformity and AS*

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First off yes I know this topic is a little old and hasn't been active in about a year. But yeah I'm 22 now but when I was that age I was very similar. My teen years not so much but thats for several reasons and I'm not going to take the time to explain everything. Now I'm again back to being that way. I'd say it is very related to AS/ASD and if everyone else would stop caring everything would be much less stressful in this world. I AS and currently have found that I love to wear Skirts, Leggings, Knee Socks etc. The biggest thing this world could benefit from at the moment in my opinion is the complete destructions of gender roles and other artificial constructs relating to how society thinks one should act.

I'm married to a very stright male cheerleader who loves hot pink. He's wonderful having "female" interests never caused any trouble with his gender or sexual orientation he just got women better then other men his age. I on the other hand had no "male" interest and have always been bisexual. I think as long as a kid is happy it doen't matter.

I am a AS mom with a 7yo AS son , when he was younger we were around a group of families that were quite liberal and offered dress up clothes to boys and girls there was no stigma attached. He loved tye dye dresses and insisted on wearing them in public I tried to redirect but didnt want him to feel as though it was wrong . after having a baby sister he did a complete shift and is mortified that he ever wore the dresses (now they are his sisters) but remains a extremely sensitive, loving, affectionate boy he likes to play with girls too . I understand gender issues I spent my horrifying public school career wishing I was a boy ( I identify as lesbian though I always coveted my long hair) they did not understand AS then and viewed it as a behavioral issue due to my IQ. I also homeschooled and coop private schooled my son I do think that had a role in his idea of gender appropriate behavior of course. I have tried public school for him also they considered my advocating for him a nuisance (this is the red flag) and just didnt understand his needs . Due limited options in my town I had to enroll him in this public school they are completely different they have programs to help him in ways i cannot at home the principal personally picked his teacher because she is highly structured and has has 3 AS boys in her clas in the past , he is thriving and quite popular. So I do believe that AS people have a different relationship with gender and also allow their children to blur those lines seeing it as a natural and logical progression of events as we are not guided by social norms.

Back in late September, early October, an East Indian man who goes to my clubhuose told me that I look like a boy with my "new image", which was actually me going back to what my reality was, before Austin Powers crossed my mind. I took it as a compliment, because I feel much more male, than I do, female. That was the time that I stopped spiking my hair up and hiding my lips. I saw a glimpse of myself in the mirror, earlier on that day, and saw this familuar face from 13 years ago, looking at me. I looked like my favourite Kink, like I did, in 1996, before my mind was tarnished with inuendos and other Austin Powers related grime. It's also gone to my head, a little. I take it as a compliment when people call me, Sir.