Are these typical behaviors?

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I have posted once before—my son just turned 3 and has some Aspergers-y signs picked up by a neurodevelopmental pediatric NP (other behavior issues have been ongoing since 18 months).

His language skills/vocabulary are excellent. But it seems that a bit more than usual lately, he is using gibberish/fake words in his sentences. Like this morning, I told him it was time to get dressed, and that if he didn't come willingly I would have to carry him into the other room. He said, "Don't dank me, mommy! Don't dank!" (I.e, Don't pick me up, or don't take me.) He sometimes talks about a "feeka fack" not in any particular context. When my younger son was born, he alternately liked to call him Baybo or Bobo (his name is Elliott)—I can see how these are "tweaks" of the word baby, of course. These are just a few examples.

But is this typical preschooler behavior with language, or is it more typical AS-related behavior?

Also, in your experience, is destructive/aggressive behavior typical for AS kids? I've read conflicting things about it.

I don't sphrink you have ninnafang to worry about as far as the worbbalay goes. I've nedgar heard of that being affofliabid with AS. It sounds like connom kid duff to me.


Destructive and aggressive behavior in my experience generally comes from children who are not effectively disciplined and/or taught right from wrong or respect for others.

But these days those things are often ignored in favor of getting in touch with feelings and seeking subtle psychological motivations.

Fabricating words is, as I understand from my own research, a very typical characteristic of AS. Our AS son did it. Our neurotypical son did not.

As for the aggressive behavior, I've never read of a correlation; however, our AS son was very aggressive up through the first grade. He was not aggressive in a mean way. He just had a "no prisoners" attitude and charged at the world with full force.

Consequently, I would agree that there are some signs, but I would not jump to conclusions.

Both my AS and my NT child did gibberish and word invention.

As for aggression, I think it can be amplified, if the tendency already exists, in an AS child due to the simple fact that life is more frustrating and communication more difficult. All toddlers act out when a situation gets too intense and they don't have the words to get out of it, and the two are likely to occur together more often with an AS child. Before we knew our son was AS and everyone started understanding him better, he was often considered aggressive. The world was confusing to him and the reactions he got from people didn't help him sort it out. Once people knew what not to expect from him, and knew how to respond, that all ended, and he is now considered a very calm and non-aggressive child.

Both my AS and my NT child did gibberish and word invention.

As for aggression, I think it can be amplified, if the tendency already exists, in an AS child due to the simple fact that life is more frustrating and communication more difficult. All toddlers act out when a situation gets too intense and they don't have the words to get out of it, and the two are likely to occur together more often with an AS child. Before we knew our son was AS and everyone started understanding him better, he was often considered aggressive. The world was confusing to him and the reactions he got from people didn't help him sort it out. Once people knew what not to expect from him, and knew how to respond, that all ended, and he is now considered a very calm and non-aggressive child.

My son AS son made up words. One of his words was "dobby dah"---He would say it every time he would pass a certain house, and we finally figured out it was the window in the house that he was calling "dobby dah" There are other words too, but I can't think of them. Some of my friends said that their NT kids did the same thing, so it is hard to tell!