When did you notice issues with your child?

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Since learning about AS for myself I've started looking more indepth at my little sister's behavior. (I'm no expert and sorry to judge please don't be upset) but a couple things I seem to notice that I hear people around WP have or do that my sisters do aswell. (Just observation I'm no professional sorry to offend)

Rudeness (10 year old has this in spades it leads to huge yelling fights etc.)

Cluelessnuss (8 year old) Basically like myself the 8 year old gets told HEY that's COMMON SENSE YOU SHOULD KNOW THAT! (She does this over normal things and homework, my parents at times says she's like me)

immature interest (8 year old) I was into Barney until 3rd grade the 8 year old it's Dora and preschool shows (although she does watch Icarly her Cell phone case is Dora kind of kidish.

"meltdowns??" (8 year old/10 year old) I quoted it since I still don't understand the concept of meltdowns for myself the 10 year old gets uspet if you say something hateful to her which is a normal behavior I guess but the 8 year old it's EVERYTHING homework CRY! Sitting in the seat she wants in the truck CRY! Not getting to get an Icee/toy/*insert what she wants to have/go do here* CRY! (Also the yelling arguments from the 10yr. old lead to I hate you and "meltdownish freaking out behavior IMO.


These are just ways IMO they seem like me of sorts overall if I had to go off of knowing them I'd say the 8 yr. old has more problems overall though it's interesting to observe there behaviors and connect it to something AS or whatever problem they may have. Also I'm curious are some of these behaviors normal? Once again sorry to offend anyone I'm just going off of what I see and different traits I think might fit them. Sorry to offend.

It's very difficult at times to judge what is normal and what isn't. I first noticed problems with my daughter when she was about 2 or 3, although hindsight goes back to the day she was born. All the way along I was told her aspergers behaviours were 'normal for a child of that age'. Even now she acts like a normal teenager. It's the little bit extra that marks it as aspergers. All kids argue with their families, she does, but it's just more intense. Others couldn't see the difference. I could. And eventually so did the experts, it just took them longer.

Any child can be temperamental and difficult, given the right circumstances. But if you are AS, it is highly likely one of your siblings is, as well, or at least has some AS traits.

In answer to your topic title, my son was always "different," but it was generally assumed that he was uniquely brilliant, and that was why he was "different." The world is very good at making parents of infants feel better about their difficulties By the time he was 3 the preschool was complaining about him quite a bit, but blaming it all on me We did some family counseling at the preschool's request and were told that it wasn't me, and he was "magical" and "brilliant" and responding in his unique way to some very real stresses that had occured that year. Nice to hear, but it wasn't quite on the mark yet. It was in elementary school that it became evident something HAD to be going on because the gap between perceived ability and actual work product was HUGE and growing. So it was ages 5-7 that I was working on getting an answer.

Parents of AS kids often get told that we're just not raising them right. Spoiling them, not being consistent with discipline - it all depends on the philosophy of the person who thinks they hold all the answers. I do have concerns about how your parents choose to handle things, but without living their lives I can't know which is the chicken and which is the egg. Are they just doing what society keeps suggesting they should, given unique children that don't seem to respond appropriately? Or are they actually aggrevating some of the behaviors by not adequately understanding their children's unique needs? Obviously, those of us here can't know.

Have your parents considered having your siblings assessed? Do they know about Aspergers? I see from your profile that you are undiagnosed, so maybe they are clueless on it? Do they know that you have it? Have you talked to them about it?

I knew that something was wrong by the time my son was a year old. He was not reaching physical milestones, he did not care too much about toys, and he would lay on the floor and stare at the celing and flap his hands. However, he was lovable and had good eye contact and had words at 11 months. So, it was somewhat confusing. I began to have him evaluated, and at first, everyone did not think he was showing signs of autism. At 2 years old, he was repeating things in entire sentences from books and tv shows, and still did not care about playing with other kids. He is now 4.5 years old. He is very social with adults, but has very little interest in other children. He has very little imaginary play. His speech is improving, but he still has difficulties. He has never had very bad tantrums, but I do notice that he seems to get overly emotional about things that seem to be minor.

I think all kids are different, and some of the behaviors may be a phase or just personality types. My nephew who is 9 months older than my son and is NT has had many, many, more tantrums and meltdowns than my son who is on the spectrum!

I think there are many other things that come into play when getting the diagnosis.

I hope some of this helps!

My youngest son was always a fussy baby and would cry alot. It was hard to console him. I didn't really notice anything at first but my wife did when my youngest son was about 16-18 months old. He was starting language but then all of a sudden stopped using words.

Our pediatrician got him into a program run by our local school system. By then he was almost 2 and was down to two words: Mommy and Hi. For the next two years, my son would echo TV shows and commercials. It was then we got our diagnosis. I would say things really didn't improve much until he was about 5-6 years old when it seemed like he really shifted gears. I've heard that's not uncommon.

Looking back, Pre birth,,,,,,,, our son was always aspergers