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Shadowcat
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08 Mar 2010, 9:16 pm

Why is it considered more of a threat (to a parent) when a teenager who has a disability (it doesn't matter what kind it is), does the following things: mouths off to the parents, cusses at the parents, and generally disagrees with what ever the parents say or do? (in other words acts like a teenager usually does.).

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It's not a considered a threat if a Nerotypical teenager is on drugs or is stealing from the parents (for drugs), mouthing off to the parents, cussing them out, or disagreeing with whatever the parents say or do?



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08 Mar 2010, 9:42 pm

I do all of the above (not drugs) to my parents, and I'm not seen as a threat. :?


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08 Mar 2010, 10:32 pm

Shadowcat wrote:
Why is it considered more of a threat (to a parent) when a teenager who has a disability (it doesn't matter what kind it is), does the following things: mouths off to the parents, cusses at the parents, and generally disagrees with what ever the parents say or do? (in other words acts like a teenager usually does.).

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It's not a considered a threat if a Nerotypical teenager is on drugs or is stealing from the parents (for drugs), mouthing off to the parents, cussing them out, or disagreeing with whatever the parents say or do?


I am having a difficult time understanding where you got the impression that a parent would not be upset by, and compelled to action regarding, the later.

I am also unclear what you mean by "threat."


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09 Mar 2010, 10:15 pm

I'm not sure I understand your question.

It's okay for a kid with a disability (like ASD) to be a jerk. But it's not okay for a 'regular' kid? Or do you mean the other way around?

Guess it doesn't matter which way it's supposed to be - it not okay for either kind of kid to be a jerk.



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09 Mar 2010, 10:19 pm

Shadowcat wrote:
Why is it considered more of a threat (to a parent) when a teenager who has a disability (it doesn't matter what kind it is), does the following things: mouths off to the parents, cusses at the parents, and generally disagrees with what ever the parents say or do? (in other words acts like a teenager usually does.).

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It's not a considered a threat if a Nerotypical teenager is on drugs or is stealing from the parents (for drugs), mouthing off to the parents, cussing them out, or disagreeing with whatever the parents say or do?


Um, I don't think that's the case at all. Where are you getting that impression?


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