The IQ test disparities sound much like my son's. I think that is a huge part of an AS diagnosis, because it is maybe the least subjective part and apparently sticks out like a sore thumb.
We were met with speculation and doubt for years. But my family has been catching on ... took, what, 5 years?! ! Rain man is still very much the prevalent image, as are all the doom and gloom ads from Autism Speaks. Of course, many parents with so-called lower functioning children really question that our kids have anything similar, and I understand where they are coming from in terms of real life prognosis, but it really is the same condition, and I feel like I see it so clearly at this point (feel like may not, of course, equal reality ). Hopefully those around you will catch on. If not ... well, you've got plenty of company for griping about that on here.
Our kids are gifts. While our journeys with them may not follow the so-called normal course, it can still be a wonderful journey and every moment should be cherished.
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Mom to an amazing young adult AS son, plus an also amazing non-AS daughter. Most likely part of the "Broader Autism Phenotype" (some traits).