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If anyone could help me, this would help my mum and me a lot...

My dad has a very short fuse...he gets angry quickly, he shouts very loudly if he can't find things or people don't understand him..and he has in the past taken it out on my mum and objects(he tended to break things in the past)

I was thinking...do any sons or daughters whose parents have Autsim or AS, do their parents also have a short fuse?

I myself have Asperger's, I rarely get angry, but I do upset easily...

Any info you are willing to share, would help my mum a great deal, for I hope she can understand...

Thanks!

Check out the "raised by an Asperger's parent" thread, and see if any of those experiences sound like your father.

It does vary a lot. If your dad is AS, he is still a unique individual, and it can be hard to say what is AS and what is just his personality.

If that short fuse is negatively affecting you and your mom, however, it doesn't matter what the cause is: he needs to work on it. It is great that you want to be understanding and help him with it, but as an adult your father MUST take responsibility for his own actions and how they affect those around him. It is his job to figure out what the triggers are (and NOT just blame you and your mom for them) and work to mitigate them. It is his job to learn anger management techniques.

a question: does your father have a short fuse just with you and mom or he takes it to the other people too?

the reason why i ask is that my father used a verbal abuse just on the weak and close ones (mom and me). he would actually be submissive with other dominant people. if your father is the same, the medicine is to appear or be strong (not physically but indepndence-wise and financially).

My Dad is not AS but he gets set off by little things and yells. My Mom is the Aspie so its hard for her. Luckly when I was a kid I usually did not see a lot of him. He worked all day and drank all night...woke up in the morning, did some cocaine and went back to work. My Mom basically did not allow him in the house when he was wasted and we were awake. I was very scared of him though when I was a kid and I still cant stand men who yell and scream. My husband is very mellow...if he yells its something serious or he is really stressed. I feel sorry for my Mom though....my Dad has been clean since I was a teenager (that was ugly but thats another story) still he gets angry over little things. I have suggested that he get on medication before he drives my Mom nutso.....also I sometimes wonder if he enjoys life himself because he is typically angry about something. I try to focus on the times when I had fun with him. I know he loves me and I love him but I wish he would find some way to calm down.