My son's been diagnosed at 12 years! W00t!!

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Hi everyone, first post, good news: My son's been diagnosed with Aspergers. I'm so grateful for these forums, especially the "You might be an Aspie if..." thread, since that's when we finally nailed the diagnosis for ourselves. It took a couple more months and a lot of pushing for an official diagnosis.

It's all good! And I can see now how incredibly hard I've been working all these years.

Interesting thing on reading the parents' forum is that I might have strong Aspie traits myself, and without some major life experiences (probably a subject for some writing once I've got more of an idea what's actually happened, it could provide inspiration!) I probably wouldn't have come out of myself as much as I have. I'm now considered a social butterfly and don't have problems interacting with anyone, to the point of having made a career out of creating connections. There are still bits of me that are very happy with my own company. We're definitely preferring our company to being social as a family.

My son and I have been on our own pretty much for ever, his dad also has strong Aspie tendencies, but fortunately I've been able to raise J in a quite relaxed way and have been addressing all the things we needed to look at, so he's doing pretty well. Things are finally coming together with the diagnosis and I'm so thrilled.

Just thought I'd share

Are there any local boards? Might be nice to meet up with fellow London based people on here?

It must be a relief to have all your questions answered. I also like your attitude. It's very positive.

Thanks for the kind welcome, Mick! (just wait until the next meltdown...)

Congrats! I bet things make a lot of sense now.

Hey I know exactly how you feel except my excitement was me being dignosed.
It can sound strange being excited for being diagnosed with a 'syndrome' but it sure answers a lot of questions and you finally know you're not crazy and there is a whole community of people just like you!

And we've had the next meltdown, in school, everyone very frightened (nobody got hurt though, and while chairs were kicked about, nothing was destroyed.) Because of all you nice people on these boards I now know that he really isn't himself when he's in meltdown mode, so I let it wear out until I could see the signs of him returning to normal, and hugged him when he was back. It's been an unsettling time for him with moving into a new flat but I am involving him at every step, so he feels a lot of control over the circumstances.

Thanks again everyone for being here

That horrible meltdown demon. Sometimes there is nothing you can do but wait it out like you did.
Yesterday I found a little magic switch for my son. Something upset him and he cried and cried and kicked and screamed and nothing could consol him. I was taking my kids out for pizza last night anyway so i got down and softly whispered in his ear "pizza". It was like the magic switch. He looked at me and said "pizza?" all smiles with tears still streaming down his face. Sometimes thats all it takes is to find the magic switch to grab their attention but I admit I cant use that all the time...tempting though.