Take me to the Dr to fix my brain...

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My son has said this a few times to me...although I have to admit he has not said it in the last 3 months since we moved...but I always tried to get out of him what he meant or why he would say that and he would just say "I don't know"...

For adults/teens with AS, did YOU ever feel this way? Was there something that you felt off that would make you think something was not right?

Sometimes I wonder if he was saying it because another kid would tell him that...or if he was truly saying it because he felt something was wrong...I know that at that time there were a few ocassions he socialized with some kids that were his friends, but a few of the other kids at the parties, etc...were not very nice to him...so I also wonder if he heard this from them.

So take him to the doctor...

I certainly felt this way a number of times.

Everyday.

No, it never occurred to me growing up that there was anything unusual about my brain, other than that I was smarter than most of my peers. I was made to feel it was my personality that was causing all the trouble.

Once I started school, I always felt there was something wrong and different with me. My peers didn't have to say anything (though they did), it was just obvious to me.

If that's want he wants, take him to the doctor.

Please tell me what kind of doctor can fix his brain?

Yeah I can relate. Don't know how old your son is but at times I wanted a brain transplant (and sometimes still do lol).

angelbear, I agree, where would I take him? A psychiatrist? Psychologist? Honestly, I think they are all flukes, except some give you poisonous medication...sigh...hmmm...is that where I should take him?

I think they were just being facetious. There really isn't any doctors that can fix his brain.

To help sort out what he means, I'll ask a question. Does he know about his AS and did you use the standard, "your brain works differently" description? If so, he may well be feeling that he does not want to be AS, and hoping you can fix it. While kids like my son embrace the label, some don't want to be different. Perhaps your son is like that.

If the above doesn't seem to apply, maybe something has changed recently and is bothering him, but he doesn't know how to describe it. My son is now in puberty and he is noticing a change in the relationship between his conscious and subconscious minds that bothers him; my son has also had periods where he feels like there is "more fog" in his brain than normal. Situations like those are things a child might want to have "fixed" by a doctor.

And, then, there is the possibility of believing that a doctor can fix your emotional problems, based on the child's understanding of psychiatric services.

What has changed recently for him, how self aware is he, and what does he know of his diagnosis and other conditions involving the brain?

I can relate to this a bit, or rather my 12 year old daughter probably can. She said recently she feels she has three problems, her short term memory, she says she feels a "ggggggghhh "( makes a sound like white noise that she feels when she tries to think what happened ten minutes ago ) , and her short temper problem, which I am the brunt of, her single parent, and the third problem being her aspergers, which I think I have yet to find an acceptable definition of for her. She says nobody will tell her what it is, though I have tried, saying things like "you're differently wired", "some things eg social situations might be more challenging for you, while others are super easy (read very young and devours books) . She finds my attempts at explanations patronising, and gets angry and upset at them, when I'm just selecting words carefully to find an upbeat positive definition.
I sometimes wonder did I do the right thing for her in telling her she has AS as she seems to feel more gloomy about herself than she did before. Is there ever a case for not telling kids, though too late now of course.
I also always say things like "you can achieve whatever you want to in life, this is not an excuse to sit back and not do stuff, i just might be harder thats all" . I dont know if thats the right thing to say.

Maybe a psychologist or a counselor. They can't "fix his brain," but they can help build self esteem so he doesn't percieve himself as being "broken."