Does it sound like Asperger's?

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nevermind.

jesus christ, what a book.

That is a lot of information, and relevant to the issues at hand, but not sufficient for the question you asked. It... could be.

Yes, that really sucks. It'll probably get worse.

If you do opt to homeschool, just don't an keep an unathletic kid all alone in a house full of breakables all day without providing any stimulation. Well... that worked better than any attempts at parenting me ever have, but it did have some bad consequences. Just bear in mind that if you're keeping a child at home 24/7, you have the same responsibilities as you have to any pet. You wouldn't keep a dog locked up with no stimulation all day, would you? Presumably, you can't play or interact very often and he wouldn't want you to anyway-- if it's anything like what I can tell you anything about-- so in that case make sure there's stimulation available, such as books, TV, computer, toys, anything. You can't have your cake and eat it too; you can't maintain his psychological health AND practice discipline, because there's no escape, no one to complain to, no way to get out, nowhere else to go, nowhere and nowhen with better or even different conditions.

On a more positive note, it sounds like you're taking charge of the situation admirably.

i erased my post before you replied because it was entirely too long, and i was rambling. i couldn't shorten it so i just deleted it because i didn't think anyone would ever take the time to read all of that. So I do appreciate the time you put into wading through my latenight tsunami of ramblings about my kid. This last month of kindergarten has been far more stressful than I've ever imagined, and easily my most stressful month ever of parenting him. I was reading through lots Asperger-related articles and posts and it was all starting to make so much sense, and my feelings and questions about him just all came pouring out.

and yes, i'm well aware that i can't keep my kid couped up inside all day with no stimulation. i wonder where i ever gave that impression that i would. i've been a parent now for 5 years and a pet lover and owner for nearly 30 years, and i will have to say that the responsibilities i had to my pets vs. to my kids are in no way comparable at all, but thanks.

one of the reasons why i want to homeschool my kid is to give him the stimulation he needs. they keep him in school, all day (kindergarten!) and only allow free time at the end of the day **IF** he manages to behave himself all day. To me, that's setting him up for failure. My kid would do better in school if you gave him lots of physical activity and stimulation before class starts. Get him tuckered out and the adrenaline flowing. This makes me him much more relaxed and happy and calm for a nice long period of learning.

If i homeschool, i'd start the morning with excercise. Jumping on a trampoline. Skating. Playground. Something like that, before I even began the book learning.

also, having read up quite a bit on homeschooling, one of the last things you do if you're homeschooling is keeping a child in the house all day with nowhere to go. most parents i know who homeschool teach mainly by always being on the go. museums, zoos, art festivals, etc. you can't learn as much sitting inside all day as you can when you get out there and do stuff.

You didn't give the impression. I was warning you specifically against what happened to me. If you have the time and energy and willingness, it sounds like homeschooling would be a good idea for you. Personally, I found that as long as I could read and had internet access, I did fine. For certain values of fine that allow for depression and suicidal ideation and falling a bit behind in school. But other than that-- oh, and vitamin D deficiency, and getting horribly out of shape... um... so "fine" may not be the word I'm looking for, but it was better than the Khmer Rouge. Compared to that it was fine.

If you repost what you said originally, others will be able to offer input as well.

Seriously, it's fine. We want to help. Don't be so shy!

Keep us posted on what happens, okay?

...Huh. All of a sudden I realized why my mother doesn't think she's done a good job.

It never even occured to me that my kid wasn't "normal" until he entered kindergarten. I want them to accept him as he is and work with him how he best works like I've always intuitively done. it has been a hurtful rude shock that they have been so..unaccomodating to just who he is as a little person. i want him to succeed. i also want to protect him. he is still a baby comparied to many of the other kids. i don't even let him ride the bus because i don't think he can communicate well enough to get his point across to bus bullies or to grownups to let them know of any issues. most bus drivers don't even care. we moved close to the school so he wouldn't have to ride the bus.

little things that i just think about naturally and make allowances for, most people don't. i wish school didn't have to be such a comparison event for him.

I say you're right and you should homeschool, for what it's worth. But my only qualifications are that I'm a teenager with an internet connection.

Everyone is an individual, and the speed at which people mature in each area is variable, even within an individual, even within a single skill. School cannot accommodate the full range, though it does a better job for some people than for most here.