words a parent loves to hear

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My son has the decluttering bug, which is awesome. He's cleaning out all sorts of old junk. Today he brought out a toy my mom gave him and said "I never play with this, but I don't want to hurt Bubbi's feelings."

Awwww!! !

The other day my son and I were talking about his class teacher and he told me that she understands him really well, then he said, "But no one understands me as well as you do".

Is that what we're doing, putting up words a parent loves to hear? I love to hear that people like my kids. Unfortunately, people are more likely to take me aside and discuss my kids with me in hushed whispers. I've been taken aside and given a talking to enough myself in my life... I don't want it anymore.

I just want to hear more people say that they accept them as they are.

Any, any at all will do.

I wasn't getting upset. I wasn't sure if it was a well-deserved brag or a topic asking for each person to offer one. So my offering was that I like to hear that people like my kids. Lately I've heard that my son's outside play behavior might stand to get us evicted if he continues, so some approval would be welcome around here.

Sorry about that. I was in a mood, but I was sulking not snapping. Why would you expect someone to get upset? Seems to me this is the sort of place where you can expect people to recognize the significance of a simple moment. I guess that's one of the things NTs automatically respond to. I am undiagnosed, but to be sure, I do not do automatically what the "regular" people do. When my sister puts up a picture of her kids on Facebook, for example, she has a dozen people pop up to say almost the exact same things. I always wonder why. But I suppose everyone likes to be acknowledged. I should have said that was great. I thought it, then I wasn't sure whether that was the right response or whether I was supposed to think of another thing a parent likes to hear.