Sons at church camp!

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Right now my son is at church camp...and my stomach always gets in knots because I know why he is there..he will have no friends while everyone has somebody to hand around w/. Will this every go away..I feel like i just want to cry. Life just isn't fair sometimes...Anywhos..thought i would vent...

I'll keep your son in my prayers. Let us know how he does.

why the pessimistic outlook on your son? How do you know he won't find like minded people? How do you think your son would feel if he had saw what you have posted here?

being a parent is very difficult at times...no one wants to see their children treated badly. it is quite difficult to know that your child is the "odd duck". even so, my son has made friends where i thought it was impossible.

This is just a wild, off the cuff guess but if it is CHURCH camp, and churchie people usually give off this whole "we love everyone, everyone loves everyone" spiel, why aren't the people in CHARGE of this CHURCH camp making sure your son (and every other child there) has a great HAPPY experience? I'm sure they're singing songs breakfast lunch and dinner that go something like "we all love the lord and we all want to be just like him" so one would think......

Disclaimer: the above was written by a recovering catholic who clearly hasn't recovered yet.

One thing though that may work to your son's advantage is that many of the kids may be new to each other and more willing to be open to playing together. And most likely the groups day is structured so there is every possibility he may have a friend or two. Or if he is like my son - he may be kind of oblivious to the other kids sometimes and just want to play the activities or to interact with the adults. That doesn't mean that he is unhappy though if that is how he wants to play. But that might be one of the differences between HFA and AS and my son is HFA. Personally aside from the verbal stuff I don't really know what the differences are supposed to be but before someone points that out (lol).

Thanks for your reply. My ds has not called me yet! Talked to a friend of mine that went and she says he is doing really good. I don't think he is surrounded by friends but he is doing things..shooting baskets and other activites.
Thanks for your prayers!! They are appreciated very much.
Thanks for all the comments. They have helped alot!

Hugs,
Dana

ooops...i was accidentally logged into my sons name dannyboy

Sometimes an NT's idea of what friendship is and what an AS would consider a friendship is different. My son is perfectly happy to be at camp doing fun things alongside other NT children. If they're not teasing him then it's a great experience and he loves it.

Thankfully we found an all inclusive camp that doesn't turn anyone away and the director is an OT so she's quite prepared to handle any issues he might have.

I'm happy to hear that your son is having a good time!

Celticgoddess wrote: Sometimes an NT's idea of what friendship is and what an AS would consider a friendship is different.

That's for sure! When I asked my son why he picked certain teachers as his favorites, he said it was because of their tall height and deep voice! (those weren't the ones who were the nicest to him, either!)
He acts very geeky and weird and completely clueless so he doesn't have what I would call "friends" but most of the kids at his school and boy scout troop treat him very well. They have learned to be direct with him to get him to leave them alone. He has had a pretty good middle school experience. He is not picked on and the kids look out for him.
Life's weird. No one can figure it out. Either that or he's charmed!