How to "handle" the situation

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A neighbor across the street has kids over to her house but of course "allows" them to use our front yard to hang out in. My son has no desire to interact with them (showing once again his superior intellect) but they have called him names before and he is only 8 so I'm sure it intimidates him to go out there. We have a big tree in front of our yard that my son likes to walk around - and the "yard" is very small. My husband was staring at them when I went out to the store to see if they would take the hint (I guess) and they left for a little while but of course came back as soon as he went in. Not sure if it is my Aspie tendencies but I am more inclinded not to use verbal communication and just turn the hose on them . Seems much more efficient than yelling.

I think I would just matter-of-factly tell the kids that they need to find somewhere else to hang out - perhaps one of their own yards. If they continue to come over, I would talk to one of the parents and make it clear that your son does not feel comfortable with the other kids, and that he needs to be able to play in his own yard, so they need to go somewhere else. Keep it low key and matter-of-fact. They have no right to hang out in your yard without your permission.

I don't know what country you are from, but if the kids are in your yard you are legally liable if any of them are injured. With the tree you describe, I can only imagine how soon they would be hanging out of it, and if they fell, it would be your insurance company paying for it.
Rosa has the right idea, but I think I would leave your son out of it, since he's already getting picked on (so it sounds). Tell the kids, then tell the neighbor if it continues. Tell the neighbor that you caught a kid in the tree and you would really like not to have these type of problems.

I mentioned something to the kids last night and the neighbor scooted in the house. The kids moved over to the next neighbor's house. Too weird really.

sounds like these kids needs some adult supervision.. my son also has issues with the neighbor hood kids.. he tells me they are dumb.. and one of the kids can't talk properly and tends to screams as he interacts.. maybe because his parents do this also. i would approach the parents and let them know that the kids on your property could get hurt and it would not be fair that you would foot the bill for them. they need to play in their own yard! what is wrong with these parents that they don't see their children need supervision..

We had a similar problem, one of my son's bullies climbed up on our roof! I was sitting in the living room and couldn't imagine the noise, and went out front. I asked him to get down and he refused, saying my son (who'd been in the house all day) told him to climb up there. After an hour I was tempted to tell him my son said go play in traffic, but called his mom instead. (I was getting a little stressed) She replied by screaming and cussing at me (!), so I ended up calling the police. The child in question ended up in juvenile hall for two weeks, I think probably because the police had to climb up, he refused to come down.

All I could picture was this kid tumbling off my roof and breaking his neck.

in order of use
>>ask to leave

it worked once, right?
if that does not work

>>tell your neighbor you do not want the kids on your lawn

maybe she will listen... maybe not.
if this does not work

>>fence (if you dont mind a little change) with the no trespassing signs

I like my fence it blocks people from coming in and no one can watch me while i am outside
if it doesn't work

>>one of my neighbors called the cops on another neighbor for the same thing

they is now known as the family that called the cops on a bunch of little kids.... but they have a very nice lawn.
if they return

>> set up the hose....

they deserve it