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I wouldnt say im a adult but i need to ask someone who has a austic child for help.
I have autism myself and my friend pointed out to me that when i get happy and want to play.
I hurt people without relisieng im doing it. Its not like i mean to hurt them its just i want to play.
it just happends its not something im trying to do. Like when i get playing one time i was with my friend and i got really close to her face and was luaghing resoleing around with echoter....all though she had to tell me to stop because i got to harsh and she relised i didnt seem to know.
So i was wondering is this my autism?
Does this happen to your kids? And what do they do? is it the same?

Btw i can not spell very good but im not that young (17) lol sorry i tryed my best.

Hello, my son has recently been diagnosed with asperger's, he is 12 years old. He loves our dog, but when he plays with her he sometimes pokes her eyes and hurts her, he doesn't mean to hurt her but can't seem to help himself.

We also have five guineapigs and although he loves to have one sitting on his lap he will suddenly pull out a small piece of fur to make the guineapig squeak, he just doesn't seem to realise he has hurt the guineapig and is always really sorry afterwards.

My son's friend, who also has asperger's is often too rough with his friends and sometimes hurts his mum as well. He isn't trying to be mean he thinks he is being funny and that it will made people laugh, he is sorry when he realises he has caused hurt.

So you are not alone. I hope this has helped.

Well our seventeen year old son (diagnosed variously ADD and more recently ASD) is quite gentle for a boy, but for example he does not seem to pick up on cues with our (big) dog. He often seems to want to get a reaction from the dog and sometimes the dog is happy to play but other times he is just annoying the dog presumably without realising it. Sometimes he overexcites the dog and this is a big, can be slightly fierce dog, and then the two just ramp up and ramp up the aggression and I have to step in and show him what to do (viz just turn your back to the dog and ignore it). I have showed him this quite a few times but he seems rather slow to get the idea.

I hate to come across as insensitive but you should really crack out the dictionary and learn to spell words properly. It will help people understand you better and will also make you seem less lazy.

The problem you are describing is a common Aspie trait associated with lack of understanding of personal boundaries, social cues, body language, and impulsiveness. Find a therapist that can help you understand those issues.

My AS son can be the same way, with both the boundary issues and the spelling / grammar. Many things are simply harder for him, because his brain is wired uniquely, and many other things are easier. AS is a mixed bag condition, isn't it?

If you don't mind being touched, ask your friends to use a touch signal system, or maybe a firm set of words, or both to get your attention when you are being too loud, too in their face, or too physical. A simple tap on the shoulder, or a stated "too much!" or "too far!" should do it, as long as you are willing to listen or feel for that signal. We've used many signals like that with our son and they do help.

Life is a learning process for everyone. Ask your friends to help you learn.

While you shouldn't have to worry about the spelling and grammar when you are doing social posting, it seems that some of the members here are very sensitive to it, in the same way you might be sensitive to bright lights or very loud noise. If you use a browser with spell check built in, like Firefox, it will help.

I have the same problem sometimes, especially when I'm overloaded or anxious.

Just try to pay more attention, and let your friends know that you don't mean to upset them and will try to stop if they ask. Over time, you'll learn how to have fun without overwhelming your friends.

I don't know if this will actually be of any help, but I was very similar, especially with animals, until I started a joint manipulation based martial art. It was almost a sort of awesome empathy training, having an environment in which the point was having anything I did to hurt someone happen right back.