so, i am apparently too stressed out.

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i have a horrible rash again. i think it's the 5th time in the last year i've had it. i've been looked at by 3 doctors and a nurse-practitioner and apparently i am allergic to...STRESS? gotta love how the reaction to stress is just as bad, if not worse than the stress itself. i HATE being itchy.

It has really been a stressful week though. we moved and the new school is not very easy to deal with. they are neither accomodating or friendly. they have a no parent policy and the new teacher HATES ss and doesn't want him there, and is not hiding it. i have yet to leave him there unsupervised. his ea seems great but i'm worried about what the teacher will do to him when i leave. yesterday she kicked us out by announcing to the class that it was time for SS to leave and having them all say goodbye to him. today she told me 'he seems like he's had enough, you should take him home now.' i am trying to be patient. he's not going to change. she has to get used to him, she can't just send him away when he starts acting out. i am only going to be there with him a few more times and after that she's on her own and i don't have alot of faith in her being able to handle that,even with him having his own ea.

Document everything, in ink with dates. You may be able to make a case to get him out of there and into a specialized school.

Ugh! I'm so sorry - yes, it sounds like you need to document everything. Is your son under a 504 or an IEP? Either way, seems to me like his right to an education is being violated.

I would say you have every right to feel stressed.

Just empathy for now; no suggestions.

the principle and special ed co-ordinator and the school board all know how she feels. she begged them today to take him out of her class and put him in the 'special' school. while i have to agree that yes, he would be better off in the special school, i couldn't get him in there as they said he is too smart for that. tomorrow i meet with the schoolboard again. i'm not even sure at this point what i'm trying to accomplish. i just finished the battle of a lifetime to get him his own EA, and had to get a lawyer involved. so now what? this meeting is to 'check on his progress' like he should have somehow magically become average since last week. i told teacher today that i am going to have to leave him in class as he is and that he is not going to stop being 'like that' because that's how he is. she said 'that can't work.' and went off on the medication thing again. i swear no one is even hearing me when i'm telling them HE IS ALREADY MEDICATED. i wish i had it in me to homeschool him. i wish people would stop telling me how patient i am and how it's so nice that i am 'saving' him. i am not saving him.. i am not that patient by nature, i have no other choice, you know? like what other option is there? anyways.......*end vent*

sorry MissyKrissy-

I am still really new to all of the school systems stuff and so far my son is doing okay in a special class for children with HFA, so I don't really know what the options are. If he is too smart for a special school, and you can't homeschool him, could you get the school to pay for a tutor to homeschool him? Like I said, I am not even sure what the options are, but this idea just came to my head. Good luck, and I hope your stress level will come down soon.....

Wow, that really sucks! I didn't even know schools could have "no parent" policies. And that teacher?! No wonder you are stressed!

so they said now that we have to wait until after christmas before we even try to get him going to school more. i am supposed to attend everyday with him for one hour. i hate school. honestly, i missed so much school when i was younger because i can't stand it there and i don't like having to go everyday. i am supposed to get this time to myself and to work with my 2yo as he doesn't get much attention.... this is really disappointing

Are you in the US? From what you're describing, it sounds to me like you need to hire a disability rights lawyer. I can't see how the school can pretend what they're offering to your son is a "free and equal appropriate education." If they can't educate him, they can't ask you to homeschool him as the alternative: they have to pay someone to do it.

Contact the local chapter of the Autism Society for your state and see if they can help you access legal advice.

Wow. I am realizing I'm frequently recommending this step here - I'm no fan of litigation and certainly don't think it should be anyone's first recourse - but I read so many situations here from so many people whose rights are simply being trampled on!