Ring d skool nd tel dem leave me out I'm going to burst!

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This is the text message I recieved from my 13yr old son this morning. He doesn't want to return to school, any suggestions?

Is your son at the school? I'd definitely call the school and ask what on earth is going on.

I spoke with my son, he is upset that the school are not implementing what was agreed at the last meeting again. My son is allowed to leave class if his anxiety becomes unmanageable for him and go to the office and request to speak with the principal/vice. He asked 3 days in a row same teacher and she would not allow him to leave.

This has become and big issue he will keep asking until she allows him whilst all the time get completely stressed over it.

I have rang and waiting for the school to phone me back, he did not go to school today stressed out. He is only going to school to keep me happy wants to make me happy!

Aww, the poor sweetheart. We had some of this last year - DS was more upset that the rules were being broken than that he needed to leave (but we did manage to clear it up with the school.) You can gently remind the school that these agreements are his legal rights (at least, I assume so in Ireland.) and get something in writing from the teacher that he or she understands and has a way to implement allowing him to have breaks.

We found out that one part of the problem was that the gym teacher, for instance, couldn't escort my son - and since gym was outside the school, she couldn't let him go. Make sure there's not some logistical issue standing in the way, and if there is one, help the school find a way to make it work.

I am not sure about legal rights in Ireland, but I do know that the resources hours my son received which is 5 hours can be used by the school as they wish they are not legally covered my son only gets 2 hours. I don't mind how many hrs he gets as long as its benefiting him.

Its something I am going to have to look into, I was hoping to work with the school but they are making if difficulties. The doubting starts again but I know that I am right well my son is still unhappy.

There is no reason to stop my son leaving the class, the school is very small. As you said my son also gets upset if they break the rules. It causes so much stress and its not the first time, they still haven't changed his locker, he is happy where its situated but it on the bottom or the row and he hates to be on the ground with others standing over him.

hi
i can sympathise with you on this issue. my son has also refused to go to school at times.
however you clearly have an arrangement with this school and if said teacher is being that unco-operative you need to speak to the principal and sort this out.
it is a good idea to remind staff that perhaps some day they may have a child/grandchild with Aspergers Syndrome and how would they like their offspring to be treated - with respect i hope.