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hi all , my daughter who is 3 years old is highly functioning on the spectrum,with very good memory and academic skills, and big vocabulary, using i want...and i feel ... and he is....sentences ,and extremely gifted with music and dancing and with excellent motor functions and photographic memory.she is aware of what is going around her,and even knows the street turn to the playground she usually goes to.she obvioulsy observes things more than we think she does. now my question is :although she is learning a lot of skills from her daily language and self help and learning through play experiences ,through playing and studying with parents and her ABA tutors, is she still learning the experiences related to human communication in its broader meaning ( knowing the feelings of others ( including her parents ) and using them for future interaction) ? or is this aspect not there ?? she doesnt " seem " to be quite bothered about how others feel ,and why are others behaving in this way or another. is she too young,or is that her particular way of development,or is it something that is not going to change ? i know these are demanding questions ,but you folks seem to have been through many experiences,thanks beforehand.

to further clarify, she knows the feelings of laughter and play and joking that we as parents interact with her,but i dont think she is curious to know the feelings of her peers , or to evaluate what is going on in her environment,or am i mistaken ?

Three years old is too young for a child with ASD to learn about the feelings of others, especially peers. You don't have to be alarmed if she is not learning these things right now. She sounds like she is gifted and high-functioning, so you can slowly and explicitly teach them to her over time. She will need you to teach them to her explicitly. Don't expect her to learn them on her own, just from observation, because that is not the way that her brain works. The autistic brain works well for learning from observations of physical events, and social events are also physical events, e.g. movements of facial features being physical patterns and motions instead of having social-emotional meanings related to other people's states of mind. Over time, you can teach your daughter that the physical events have this or that social meaning and how NTs respond to each other when this or that social event takes place, but she won't become NT from learning these things either.

thanks a lot btbnnyr for your very clear and informative reply. i wonder what prompts you to ascertain that she would not be NT after she has been introduced to the meanings involved in social communication and grasping them. what do you have in mind ? and what deficiencies in social interaction you think will persist with her ?