Is AS part of MDD?

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I was wondering....I think the pdoc once said that Asd is also part of the mood dysregulatory dysorders? Because this will explain why my son gets so totally upset if he doesnt get his way or gets dissapointments.....This will help explaining to people that his reactions is not for manipulation, but because he is like any other kid that gets upset when he doesnt get what he wants, but cant control the reaction and emotions that goes with this...this is where the dysregulation comes in and makes it a neurological dysorder?IMO I think that people who can manipulate have great regulation!.....
Any thoughts?

I don't know anything about MDD but what you described seems to be common among people with ASDs. I think the inability to deal with not getting one's way or facing disappointment is related to the need for routine and the discomfort that occurs when routine is not followed or something unexpected happens or conversely, something that IS expected DOES NOT happen. Think about it this way, your son has it in his head how things are going to go. This may be based on his past experience of how things usually go or based on something that he was told or thinks he heard someone say. This last is what gets us in to trouble.

If DS asks me can we go see a new movie that is coming out and I just off-handedly answer yes, he is likely to think that I mean we can go see it ON THE DAY it comes out (afterall, the TV commercial said the movie will be in theaters on XX date). So he will patiently wait for that day and have high expectations that we are going to go to see the movie on that particular day. He may have worked up quite a scenario in his head about it even, unbeknownst to me. So when that day arrives and he asks again can we go see the movie and I say no because I really didn't mean that we would go THAT day, he has a meltdown.

From the outside, it is easy to see how this looks like a child throwing a tantrum because he is not getting his way. But now I know that from the inside, it is about having an expectation that was based on something that came from someone he trusts implicitly and having that expectation get dashed to smithereens. Its about total bewilderment that the world could be so cruel and confusing. In his mind, I lied to him and I'm his mom, how could that be?! Add in that he has, as you noted, little ability to regulate emotions and the journey from "I'm fine" to total meltdown is pretty much a foregone conclusion.

Needless to say, I have learned to be much more direct and explicit in my communication. We still have occasions where misinterpretations happen but they are far fewer.