Always blames someone or "something" else

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My son AS/ADHD always blames someone else when he drops, breaks, or loses something. If he drops his drink he will say the table did it or the cup jumped or so and so did it. I tried telling him that he just needs to tell the truth that I won't be mad. It is like he is really convinced that it was someone else's fault.

Any tips on how to get him to stop blaming other people? He is only 6.

Thanks!

Good question. My more or less NT two eldest don't usually blame anyone else anymore. They're 34 and 31 years old now. It took a while. My 10 year old blames the cat for just about everything. Uh yeah. The cat doesn't have hands.

I agree that lots of six-year-olds go through a lying phase--my own son included. However, there are some helpful resources for teaching character and personal responsibility.

http://www.freevideosforautistickids.co ... Links.html

The above page on my free website includes some links to vidoe modeling resources and character education resources.

In particular, I would check out the link to the books by Joy Berry. I use her books with my own kids, and they are also used in my son's school.

They are fun character education picture books for young children. I use her pictures but place white adhesive labels in her books and replace her text with my own. (My kids need simple text that is to the point.)

You can find used copies of the books online and in used bookstores.

My DS does this too but I don't see it as a lying thing AT ALL. It is a matter of not understanding the concept of accidents. It seems to me that DS thinks that if something bad happens someone (or something) MUST be at fault. He just gets upset if you tell him it was "just an accident". We work with him about how sometimes things happen that we have no control over and that it is OK. A social story would probably be a good idea for you. Try not to frame it as lying but as accepting that sometimes things just happen and even though the result may be displeasing or uncomfortable, it will be OK.

He might also be really sensitive to feeling "bad" and tries to project it so he doesn't feel "bad."

A social story would be great. You can also model it when you make mistakes, and show him that accidents are part of every day and it doesn't make you a bad person.