Wants to move school worried!

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Son Dx ASD, OCD,ADHD wants to move school I am happy about him making the decision but question it.

He has complaint about bully but nothing that would substantiated on an on going basis there has been incidents serious ones.

He is attending a school with small numbers of pupils at the moment and I feel have been working on getting his needs meet is just about there. But he is adamant to move I feel this could be the wrong decision. At this school we had to move him from the locker room, make a lot of changes even before he had got his dx. Now that he got his dx he will have input from the local Autism Service, as a parent I just feel that I am now getting or will get the support from this school and my son wants to move. what can I do for the best! As a parent I feel this is the best school for him the school he would like to move is much larger and as he is having sensory issue at this very small school how will he cope!

How old is the kid?
What is he worried about?
Sometimes we as autistic folk have to just deal with it. Is there anyway he could be over reacting? I was quite good at manipulating my folks into doing things I wanted

He is 13yrs, he wants to move to a school where he said he friends are, but when he was going to the same school as his friends primary he still had lots of problems, meltdowns everyday at the time I didn't know what was happening but picking him up for school was a nightmare.

He thinks all will be ok with his friends from primary but that was not the situation ever! it was a nightmare for me his mum. Maybe he just feels safe with the peers he went to school with in reality it was not. As a parent it was awful collecting him everyday, I did chose his post primary school because it was small ratio hoping if he did not fit in things would be good, not the case!

Wasn't that in high school
This is a little beyond my help, sorry

One thing to consider is that your son's perception of what is happening, especially with a bully complaint, could be off from what is really happening. My son, although much younger only 6, says daily that the other kids don't like him but I see kids every morning saying hi to him and his school counselor and teacher have reassured me that they haven't seen any obvious dislike to him by the others. So my son's perception is off about this. My son's immaturity could be confusing his newfound realizing he's different with actually being liked.

But your son being much older, I'm not sure if that fits or not, you know your son, I just thought I'd bring it up in case it fits for you.

It's also perfectly natural for a 13 year old to want to be in school with friends and they aren't going to think about what's good for them or they'd eat their veggies. I guess weigh out the pros and cons and while doing that try to get your son to remember how hard the bigger school was as well as get him to try to explain to you what he thinks it will be like if he changes and what he's really hoping will happen.

Maybe a few classes at the bigger school to try it out and give him a little more time with his friends? Would that be possible?

I can relate to your post, my son is younger as his birthday falls (July) so that makes him a year younger than his peers, I am not sure if this is a problem for him maybe. I don' t think its about age really its about communication of course technically he is a year behind but not in so many skills, He is advance for his age, but not in his mind this is the problem I feel.