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Hey guys!

I haven't been on too much lately, been busy with work and school and having a Kindergartener.

Yesterday we went to a birthday party at a small playground. Joe had a great time but I noticed a few things that just make me sad.

My little dude is 6 and the party was for a 10 year old co-workers grandson. There was a group of about 10 boys all around 10 years old so he was the little guy there. When the party was actually going on he really wanted nothing to do with the other kids and just wanted me to be his play buddy. He was sitting in the sand and said "I want someone to play with me".

It broke my little heart. Finally at the end of the party after all the other guests had left he played with my friend's grandson and they had a great time. He seems to only be able to handle one on one play. He has a great time at school on the playground with one little girl. She told her mom she loves playing with Joe because he plays nice and doesn't push like the other boys.

He always asks me to find another six year old to bring to our house and play but none of my friends live local and the ones that do have no kids. I keep trying to find a play group on my days off with no luck. (I work nights)

Sorry to ramble on just feeling down that my little dude seems so lonely. Currently his favorite play mate is my 16 year old brother who comes over on the weekends and plays video games and outside with him.

I would suggest hanging around the school and getting to know the other kids's parents, and even the kids themselves, but if you are working that could be hard.. Still, it is your best recourse, so if there is any way to juggle things to increase your local presence, I would do that.

My son has always been best one on one. By the time he was 6 or 7 he stopped going to most other kid's parties as he realized he really didn't like the parties. That is common with Aspies.

My own sons have found some playmates through the local chapter of the Autism Society, which has an active Yahoo! group where parents can suggest playdates and find out stuff that the group is doing. There may also be meetups for kids on the spectrum and their parents in your area. A lot of the parents in the local Autism Society are also knowledgeable about homeschool groups in the area that are autism friendly.

Good luck!

It's so hard to be the parent of a child with who struggles socially.

We had a playdate with a friend's daughter recently and she said to me "This playdate isn't going very well. He won't play with me." I felt terrible