expecting ASD 3 year olds to start watching their peers ??

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i wonder when to expect ASD 3 year olds to start watching their peers ?? , and i mean ,watching, and not physically or verbally interacting, thanx. my daughter is fully interacting with her parents , but not her younger brother.she " notices " him ,and what he is doing ,but is not interested in directly watching him . she is highly functioning on the spectrum,with very good memory and academic skills, and extremely gifted with music and dancing and with excellent motor functions . when will she start watching her peers and brother ???

When they do something worth watching?

All children are different - there are no hard and fast rules about who does what when.

Just enjoy her as she is, and draw her attention to her brother or her peers as seems appropriate at the time. You can't force it.

I have noticed with my son that he see's more than I think he does. He may not be looking, but that doesn't mean he's not seeing.

If she interacts with her parents, then her lack of attention towards her sibling may not be related to ASD.
Could be jealousy or annoyance. Most kids find little brothers/sisters annoying to some degree.

I've been watching my brother since the day he was born. I kept looking at him and petting him. I played with him too. Mom said I was jealous for a little while when my curiosity was up so I tried to get rid of him. People just thought it was cute when I would tell them to take him. Then I got over it. I started to play with him or be near him again. I was three when he was born.

For what it is worth:

At 3, my son was not interested in peers at all. He would notice babies and try to teach them math, and tell them they were cute. No interest in same aged kids at all.

He is almost 7, now, and interacts occasionally with peers, at school, etc. but in a very non-reciprocal way.

There is so much variance with spectrum kids, I wouldn't even know how to alter the norming of social milestones for the spectrum. I don't know if anyone has, although it would be nice to know, just for reference. I don't even know if spectrum kids follow the same social milestones, in the same order (I suspect they do, but I do not know) but in an atypical way, and obviously on their own schedule.

dear ASDMommyASDKid,
thanks a lot for your clear reply , may i ask you how was your son at 3 ? was he similar to my daughter who is highly functioning on the spectrum,with very good memory and academic skills, and big vocabulary, using i want...and i feel ... and he is....sentences ,and extremely gifted with music and dancing and with excellent motor functions and photographic memory .also how is your son doing at school , sitting in class, does he have special one to one teacher support , and why do you think he is not interacting with peers ?

A lot of 3 year olds are very ego-centric anyway, add ASD to that and I wouldn't expect a whole lot of watching. They probably tolerate them, but don't see the point in watching them.

To help build this skill, which will be super important later on in life, try encouraging parallel play. Set up an activity for kiddos to be able to play independently, but next to one another. You can also practice turn taking with a desired toy, which will bring their attention to the other child to grow the understanding of others. You can also play "copy me" kind of games where each kid gets to be the leader and do something and everyone else copies. Keep these tasks 15 minutes tops. If they are verbal you can have them "deliver a message" to a peer/sibling like "Tell Anna it's her turn to get a snack" so he gets practice talking to them and has a line to say instead of having to come up with it independently.