Need a parents advice...

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I want advice on how to end a special interest. I know that parents somehow get rid of interests that could be dangerous well I feel this reacuring interest is dangerous for my pyshologic health as it seems to keep crawling back into my brain. I am trying to shut it out of my thoughts and I have kept as much away from anything related to it as I can but it seems to be getting stronger in my head, are there any particular ways I can help myself get rid of something I don't want to be pestered with any longer! Please help!!

Last edited by PixieXW on 05 Nov 2012, 4:24 pm, edited 1 time in total.

You mentioned your special interest is dangerous to your "psychological health"? Usually special interests are soothing, not pestering to the person. While obsessive thoughts (as in obsessive-compulsive disorder) are usually considered pestering and something the person wants to get rid of. Is it just the persistant thoughts that are upsetting you? Is it that it causes problems in social interactions? Is it because it might be considered odd/different by others? I am confused as to why it is dangerous.

Usually, as a parent, dangerous special interests may be about bombs/weapons/serial killers/pornography... interests that can get our child into trouble or repetitive behaviors that are self-harming such as biting, sucking, chewing on a body part causing sores, or behaviors that are relatively harmless, but annoying/destructive, picking at paint, picking at clothing/holes/scabs, making annoying/loud sounds.

When you say you have a "rescue ring" interest, I am not sure what you are talking about. A quick search brings up those ring-shaped flotation devices. Is that what you are talking about?

I am sorry that you are struggling with this. Maybe with a bit more information some parents or others who have similar difficulties could help.

My understanding is that special interests may be subverted, helped to develop into some similar interest, and limited, but usually not abolished.

Sometimes there is overlap between AS and OCD. It's worth looking into, because there are all kinds of supports for OCD that are different from the supports for autism and that may help you.

Another thing to think about: I was raised in a very shaming environment. Many very normal behaviors and feelings were presented to me as wrong and shameful, and therefore made me feel awful and out of control when they happened. I had no way to know that the feelings and thoughts in my head were part of puberty and growing up and happen to most people, and that denying or suppressing those thoughts made me feel crazy.

In either case, I'd recommend seeing a professional. It's good to get an outside perspective on things like these.

Maybe the OP means that it's dangerous because she thinks it may make her do something illegal (Gary mckannon anyone?) so she thinks she should get rid of it. Or she can mean it is taking over her life so she isn't able to do her school work focus in school because she would rather do her interest or she isn't able to do other things because she rather do her interest and she knows it's giving her trouble so she wants to get rid of it. Talk about all or nothing.

OP you don't need to get rid of a special interest, instead you can learn to try and control it so you are in control of them, not them being in control of you. I am not sure if what I said above is what you meant. Correct me if I am wrong.