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firstly, I am not being adamant.
I don't want to study in Thailand because of several reasons; The education is not well-developed, given the well abusive nature of my parents and the bad people that I've had to associate myself with, I want to start a new life outside because the more I stay the more hard it is.
And in any case, my father has a lot of friends who's children have stayed here for university and It clearly seems to me that he'd like me to stay here as well so as to look good in front of them.

I remember being your age and not wanting for myself what my father wanted for me. A lot of factors are involved, including ones you may not realize right now, and that is OK: I think for most people, where (and what) to study is the first independent, "adult" decision they make.

I was very desperate to break free at your age, and it was a big part of why I didn't want to study locally, not that I was willing to admit that to myself.

In the way back, I thought my dad was being cheap. I realize now that what he was suggesting to me was actually what he would have wanted if he was in my shoes, and he honestly couldn't understand why I didn't want it. So I wouldn't attribute selfish reasons to your father's opinion, I would put it in the perspective that he is a different person who has different priorities than you do.

Have you compared how much the options cost? If what you want is more epensive, you should plan on paying for the extra. Taking financial responsibility for your choices is part of making your decisions.

I do hope you will get the opportunity to study overseas as you wish to. It is enpowering to make that first real adult choice.

I am not necessarily going to understand the cultural stuff, so bear with me.

So, you are saying that "it looks better" amongst your dad's friends for him to have you go to school at home? Is this because it is supposed to mean you love him so much, you don't want to be away? Is it supposed to be because it shows he can control what you do? I would have thought that going to the best place academically that he could reasonably afford to send you would "look better." Maybe you can use that. When you apply for schools emphasize how prestigious they are and how good it would make him look? It would give him something to brag about, if that is the issue.

Regardless, I think as long as you can take care of yourself, you should get to go where you want. It is your life. If he is not going to pay for it, then I would do as much research as I could about how to make it happen without his help. Talk to your school's guidance office (if they have one) about how to apply for scholarships and work study. Get a job and save up money. It may be that if you do that, if he is not really worried about the money, and he sees you will do what you want no matter what, he may offer to pay once he sees that money is not the leverage he thought it was, and you are not going to just do his bidding.