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Hi, long time no see.
I think that the last time that I was here, I was pregnant, and reaching out wanting comfort. When your first child has autism, you always have that in the back of your head. Your first pregnancy, (or when I had my oldest) autism doesn't come to mind, you're always worried about those freak rare things that hardly ever happen, you know like what if she only has one eye, what if he doesn't have an arm, what if I have a hermaphrodite? I guess it is because most of these things are evident from birth. Then a couple or few years pass, and your child gets diagnosed with autism.
Fast forward to a second pregnancy, wondering if your child will have autism is the first thing that is on your mind. But I imagine it is the same for mothers of other children born with (for an example) cystic fibrosis. That mother will have that thought nagging at her the whole pregnancy.
Well Joey is about to be a year old. He's a happy baby. I see traits, but then again, any mother that has had a prior child on the spectrum, will do that. Ricky is in 2nd grade now, and he is doing well. They put him on an ADD medication, and he is doing much better at school. The school refuses to recognize the autism diagnosis, but he still gets EC and that is what matters. He still hates to write, the teachers are working hard trying to get him to write. Next year he will start taking end of grade testing, and will have to write in order to pass the test. I'm actually not too worried about it, I think he'll pass, maybe his typing skills will be improved by then, and will be able to type as fast as he can write lol.
Which brings me to my next point. My family is about as normal as we know it, which means normal is very different here. Ricky always takes his clothes off to go, umm number two. Me and my bf have been together a little over two years, he came once a long while back, and didn't think Ricky was in the bathroom, my bf comes back out to tell me my son is naked on the toilet, it was so normal for me, all I could do was just look at him and say, Okay? He's using the bathroom. Like he was the weird one for pointing it out. Which I'm sure you have those things in your house. But it got me to thinking, does he do this at school? So I asked him, he told me he doesn't go at school, he'll only pee, he'll hold it til he got home, that he's only done #2 once at school. Now I have tried to work on this with him, and he has gotten better. But home is home, and he's gonna do what is more comfortable to him at home.
Well, that is my little thing today. I hope the rest of you have a good day.

My son does the same thing. He is in the same grade as your son, only he has never taken a #2 anywhere but home. I think if he did he would know not to strip there, but he won't bm anywhere but home. Obviously I do not have advice as I have made no headway. It is not like peeing where it is much easier to nudge someone to pee. #2 is not so predictable. I guess you have him practice sitting on toilets in other places (mine will not do this) and see if that eases his anxiety about it.

He'll go at familiar places, but those are homes, like my bf's house, my brother's, my best friend's. I hope he doesn't get naked when he is at a public restroom, I don't think that he does. But I have kinda always been the same way. I'm picky about where I do that, I don't like going at public restrooms, I don't even like going at my bf's, so at least my son has one up on me