The Sprout (5 in two months) has been potty trained since about a week after his second birthday (I know, lucky me. My second kid refused to use the toilet until he was going on 4). Anyway, he has been using the potty for a long time now, and he's been able to just take himself whenever he feels like it for a long time. He doesn't even announce he's going, he just goes.
Up until maybe 6 months ago, he would yell that he was done and we'd go wipe his booty. Then he decided that he wants to do it himself, and we've encouraged him. It started with him yelling he is done, and we'd go hand him a wipie and he'd do it and then we'd do it again to be sure he'd done a good job.
Well now he has started not asking for help. He can't reach the wipes on his own, and won't use the toilet paper correctly. He keeps, I guess, getting it on his hands when he is wiping and then smearing it on the cabinet wall beside him. The best solution I can think of is to make the wipies something he can reach on his own, but I can't think of something that would work. He does wash his hands, and we often catch him before he gets out of the bathroom, so we can prevent this, but not always.
Our bathroom is tiny. The toilet is right next to the sink cabinet on one side and the bathtub on the other . The toilet paper and wipes sit on top of cabinet. He can't seem to reach them either on the back of the toilet or on the countertop. They will fall in the tub out of his reach if we put them on the edge of the tub. Any ideas? I am so beyond tired of going into the bathroom and seeing that all over the cabinet wall.
I've tried to increase sensory play opportunities. I made some sensory bags to squish, some bottles to look at, been letting them play with shaving cream and cornstarch oobleck, and homemade slime. He's still doing it.