Update on my son

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Thursday, the cop neighbor talked to him. He was out in the yard cutting some vines for me and Mr Terry called him over. He goes and they stand there for a good 10 or 15 minutes talking. He comes back, comes in and changes shirts and goes back and finished cutting. I didn't say anything to him or ask, I was going to just wait and see. Later on after he left to go to my Mothers, I went over there and asked Mr Terry what happened. He said he told DS that he's not stupid, he knows whats going on. He knows why DS is wearing that shirt, his own kids did that and he noticed the different traffic pattern at our house and even though it's late at night its a different crowd coming through and they don't even stay. He told DS that everybody knows (as in the cops) and yeah they let some people get by with it but they aren't going to let him get by with it because he's too smart and he needs to finish his GED and get on in college. He told DS to go in the house and take that shirt off right now and if he ever sees him in a red shirt again that isn't a Crimson Tide shirt he's gonna turn him every which way but loose and throw him so far he will land in next week. DS asked if me or his dad told him to talk to him and Mr T said nope he's been a cop in this town for 20 years and he knows whats up and since DS has been at his house since he was about 7 or so he feels like it's his right to take him in hand about this. He also told him that if the little side business keeps up he's gonna come over here himself and take him to jail and make it where we can't get him out until court which he will see to it doesn't happen for a couple of weeks.

So, nothing was said but he did change shirts. Later on that evening I got the surprise of my life when my oldest son, his baby mama and my grandbaby just dropped in. Now, as you know my oldest son and I had been estranged since July of 2010. He has only recently started talking to me again and been real standoffish and refused to come to the house or get closer or anything like that. He has also not talked to my oldest daughter since that July either because she told him he was being ridiculous (which he was) and he was horrible to her and called her names, etc. However he has seen and hung out with my younger son and daughter consistently and not been mad at them, as well as with his dad. DH wasn't here though, he was at his mothers that night.

Well, I about died when they came up to the door and he just walked in like absolutely nothing had happened and I went up and asked for the baby (she's 3 now and I've seen her like 4 times in her life) and he handed her to me and asked where his brother is and I said in his room. He went on back there and so did his baby mama. I sat at the computer with my grandbaby for a minute and then my oldest daughter came home and I asked him if it's ok if she saw the baby and he said yeah. So she was about to cry but didn't and we all went into my youngest daughters room, me, both daughters and the baby, and played with her while she played this game my daughter had in there. Older son and baby mama were in younger son's room with him and his friends for a while. Finally they came out and said they gotta go and I told him "hug your sister". Now, he's a big man, right? About 6-4 and muscular cause he does construction. She was sitting on the bed with the baby and looked up at him and stood up and walked over to him and looked up at him and he said "Hey <nickname only he calls her>" and she said "hey <his name>" and he grabbed her and she grabbed him and they both boohoo'd like babies. They told each other they loved each other and he said he has to go but he'll be back. They took the baby and went out to the cars. He put the baby in with her mama in one truck and she left and he was getting in his truck to leave and I asked if he was gonna come back and he said yeah, of course. I asked if he promised cause if so I'll hang his pictures back up this weekend that I had taken them down cause it hurt me to look at them cause I missed him. He said "I'm back Mama. Make me some rolls please. I'll bring you a picture of the baby to put up there too. I'm working a lot right now, but I ain't going nowhere, I'm home."

Well, I was so thrilled I didn't know what to do. So was my oldest daughter. Shortly after that my younger son left with his friends (no red shirt on him though). Last night he went off with the baby mama for a while, they went to see some friend of theirs who is in town and my oldest son was working real late so he went with her. When they got back, some of his friends came to hang out and when they were leaving one of the "gang" boys was carrying several of those red shirts. I asked him if he gave him his shirts and he said yeah. He said Mr Terry told him he can't do this and he'll get busted if he did. Then he told me Mr Terry called my oldest son and told him to do something to get rid of the you know what. That's why he came over, but he was looking for an excuse anyway my younger son said. He had said several times he wanted to come and also to make up with his sister but he needs a reason so he doesn't look bad. Theres his reason. The reason they came in separate vehicles and she drove back with the baby was that my older son came and took the you know what. He said he's gonna just have to go back and work at the store now. He's still hanging out with the same bunch as he was before, some who were in that but not the new ones who started coming around this past week.

So, that's what happened. Lots of good things happened from that! Got my younger son out of the "gang" and the game and got my younger son back!

It's about damn time something good happened to me!

Yay!

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That's awesome. You got two sons back, a granddaughter and a daughter in law in one night and you reaffirmed who your real friends are. So glad for you.

From what I have seen of your posts lately, this sounds like some things are finally starting to look up. I am really happy for you.

Terrific!

Yay! So glad for you!

That's awesome. I think you may want to thank this neighbour cop somehow for helping you out. Chocolates.. ?

Smiling from ear to ear, Frances. That was an awesome post to read! I am so happy for you on all levels!

Thank ya'll so much! I'll answer everybody in one post.

Fitzi; Yes, I sure did and I never expected that. It really is awesome.

EmberEyes; It does look like things are about to turn around for me. I had been losing my mind for a while and things were so bad. It was like all of a sudden all this good happened. It's just not something you think will happen. My philosophy was "It's always darkest right before things go completely black" but I was wrong. I'm glad I was.

ASDMommyASDKid; Thank you!

MomSparky; Me too, and double yay!

ASDsmom; They are our friends and we see them a lot. Last night his wife came over and showed me how she got covered in poison ivy and so they are all coming over tonight for supper. I'm cooking chicken and dumplings, which I had planned to cook anyway but now I'm making a double pot so there will be enough for the 6 people who live here and the 4 who live there and they can take some home with them. BTW they are really, really nice people. They have just taken in his ex wife's daughter (by another man she was married to after their divorce) because the girl (22 or so) left her husband and her mother - the ex wife - kicked her out of the house where they had been living with her. Now that's something that takes a heart of gold. Take in your ex wife's child by the man she left you for (him) and take in the daughter of your husbands ex who you know he never completely got over and treat her like your own child (her). They have their problems, but so does everybody, and they really are great people.

InThisTogether; I'm smiling too. I have been since it happened. I haven't been this happy in a long time and this time last week I couldn't even imagine ever being even 1/4 this happy ever in my life.

Ladywoofwoof; I want an emoticon for jumping up and down with joy and another one for hugging all ya'll, but I don't see one so just imagine it's here.

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So happy to read this! Thank you for the update.

Hope things continue on the upswing

Hope this is the start of a trend!! !

This is so great. Hope the good news continues!