I hate my life!

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I always feel like my family is ganging up on me. They don't listen. To make matters worse my twin brother who used to be supportive of me no longer shows any care towards me. They all talk about how it's horrible to be around me. They told me they have been dealing with me their entire lives and it feels like hell to them.

My father is a drunk and my mother suffers from severe mania. They keep insulting me by telling me I need psychiatric help and that I am crazy. My mother often times punches me in the head when we get into heated arguments with swearing. My brother who I used to trust with backing me up now ignores me and when I try to get him to understand my perspective he tells me to "shut the hell up." Sometimes I contemplate running away and quitting college. Because I have no friends, my family is against me, and I feel like this cycle of torture will never end.

I wish I had a different life. A life less dysfunctional and happier. It seems like everybody hates me. I can't turn to anybody for help.

Feel free to vent on the boards. Everyone needs someone to talk to, even if that means typing and reading via the internet.

I am sorry that you and your family don't understand each other. I do know how frustrating it can be as a parent to try to listen to your ASD child's attempt at an explanation, when to your ears it isn't an explanation at all, rambles and takes way too long, and, well, makes no sense, but that happens when ASD is involved. Both sides have to learn how the other thinks and what they need, and work out a compromise so that pertinent information does move from person A to person B with both sides feeling the satisfaction of having communicated. My son and I have developed a kind of joking way to get at it all, to cut through the differences and effectively convey meaning.

Have you worked with speech therapists at all? Many with ASD have what are considered pragmatic speech deficits, meaning that sure you know the words and you know how to talk but you don't know how to make your point. That can be worked on.

I'll admit that what you seem to be hearing from your parents and your sibling sounds pretty abusive towards you, but I can't tell how much is perception and how much is real when it comes to the verbal abuse side - punching, obviously, is NEVER Ok. Not to suggest at all that you are making things up, I am sure you are not, but when people are in a dark place, they tend to focus on and hear only a limited amount of what is actually coming at them. Without hearing all the context they can misconstrue what they have picked up. Although ... I don't want to start getting you to think of any of it as your fault, because it isn't - abuse is about the abuser, not the victim. Sorry if I'm sounding confusing, just I see need on your side as well. To admit you are in a dark place and would like some professional help doesn't mean you are crazy; anyone can get into a dark place at some point in their life; and it can be near impossible to crawl out of it on your own, so please do consider it.

Your mother is abusing you and you need to get away from her if she will not stop. Have you tried searching for autism resources that can help you move away?

I think the problem really is PLi. I never knew there was a name for the speech issues I have. It's just really hard to describe to anybody even a doctor.