Facebook Misbehavior

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I would say that since she's 16 and it's her own FB she's posting that on, and she's posting her opinion, that there isn't anything you should do about it except ask her what the problem is and try to help work out the trouble between her and her sister. I have a FB and have lots of the kids friends on my FB and they all post that kind of thing. That's an absolutely normal thing to post, her friends probably post the same type things.

Is she on your FB and you saw it that way or did you go and read hers or how did you find this? I'm asking because I'd imagine that she may want to set her preferences for particular comments to be seen by only certain groups of her friends and not her parents since this upsets you so. This is just a way for her to express what she feels. Had you rather her walk around the house yelling that her sister is a b***h, or had you rather her do like every other teenage girl in America and just post it on FB and then forget about it?

Maybe she wants her daughter to simply be no behaving like an undereducated, uneducated ghettokid at all, and dont wants her to use any of such language at all, anyway where? In another thread you expressed to me, that you feel responsible for your behavior kids and dont want yourself, that your kids show unappropriate behavior, because of that letting people think bad about your family in general. Why is it now so hard to understand that someone dont wanna be known, as the family with the kids that dont have any education or manners? If a usage of such words becomes normal for her, then this words will slip out of her without her being aware of it, sooner or later. So its important that an usage of such language dont become normal for her to express her frustration, because when she is working in an office and expresses daily normal frustration to coworkers with that heavy word usage, and not being even aware of it: "Oh, Kate again forgot to copy the xyz-contract in time, and because of that lame, dumb b***h I now will have to work 30 minutes longer." it will get you in problems.

There is nothing bad about expressing your true feelings, thats absolutely ok. But there is as well nothing bad about being aware that such an word usage simply is not accepted by many people and that this can lead to troubles. She did not "just" post in Facebook, she posted it on Facebook, an written database that keeps informations for a very long time, that gives every user reading her lines the ability to show and link that post to other people, that are not friends of her daughter, or doing screenshots from it .... If she wants to express her feeling in that way, she simply should "just" go over to a close friend of her, she really trusts, and tell her that in private. And if that friend really is that close, then she will hopefully not do an audio-record of it. But everything you post on facebook is automatically recorded by facebook itself and its simply not wise to create yourself records for eternity of you behaving like mad.