Any single parents on here?

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I would love to share stories with another single parent on WP. I find the stress of doing it all alone with no family supports or even community supports (yet) totally debilitating. Can you please private message me if you would like to talk?

I am a single parent.. sort of. My boyfriend (son's father) has Asperger's & doesn't live with me. He does see his son every day pretty much now. We moved (about a month ago) to be closer and get more services for my son. When I lived in another town I had my parents and they watched him while I worked. Might not be the same, but I was pretty limited on resources where I lived because it was in a town of about 2000. All his therapists travelled to different towns & now we are going to be getting in-home supports (someone to come in the home & give me a break or entertain him/ teach him skills while I'm getting things done around here).

I'm a single parent with Asperger's. My wife had multiple sclerosis and passed away about 2.5 years ago. I've been raising my son who is definitely NT since. He's now 6 years old. Sometimes I worry about how good of a job I can do as a parent because I don't feel like I'm dealing cards with a full deck. Truth is, so far, so good. I've become a good father, but I've had a few bad moments as a father, particularly losing my cool.

Currently I'm trying to focus on my personal needs to ensure I am a stronger parent. That includes dating, and exercising to ensure I follow a healthy lifestyle.

I'm not a single parent, but I was raised by one in one way or another for most of my life.

I probably got the most screwed-up upbringing from the two-parental-figure household (my mom's parents) though to give them credit they tried really hard.

I probably got the best upbringing from my Aspie father. Who probably got the worst of me (inherited a half-feral 12-year-old and raised it to adulthood).

Single parenting is a b***h. But you can do it, and you can have it turn out good for the kids (in the end-- nobody gets it to turn out good every single day), and you can accomplish this even if YOU are the Aspie. You just have to keep yourself functioning, your head in the game, and your heart in the kids.

That's simplistic, of course. But it really CAN be done, and like most other things, it is not as grim as the statisticians would have you think.

Single parent here as well. Kiddo goes to his dad two days a week. Doesn't make it less hard, because those two days I work my a** off, since these are the only days I can work normal hours. Having particularly bad period now, where everything seems to be just a little bit too hard for me do to by myself.

Very single mom here! I live in Illinois and my daughter's father lives in the UK. He's only seen her 2x during her life and she is 15. I should add that I've not been able to get an accurate diagnosis for her yet and we've been going for testing since she was in 6th grade. Her prior 2 therapists believe she is autistic (Asperger's if it weren't done away with) and she has many of the less-obvious hallmarks, like sensory disorder, inflexible thinking, problems with change and multi-tasking, can only follow single-step commands, expressive-receptive language issues, memory issues, high IQ, gifted artist, etc. But, she has only limited social impairment--constantly talks about herself and what's going on with her only (doesn't reciprocate in conversations) and doesn't understand social rules, like the need to shave arm pits and wear feminine hygiene products--and none of the narrow interest issues, so all I get is "inconclusive" and "further testing suggested." The only problem is on my single-parent budget I can't afford the recommended neuropsychological exam. Anyway, I digress.

I'm a single parent, have been since before she was born and yes... a lot of the time, especially by the end of the school year, I am so flipping exhausted I want to drink excessively (but I don't) or just jump in my car ALONE and head west until I run out of road or hit the beach or ocean. My father is deceased and I also support my 82 year old mother, so that doesn't help things either.