overly affectionate?

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My 4 1/2 year old daughter has trouble making connections, but when she does--whoa. She tends to want to lavish boys with kisses. This has not gone over well with the boys nor the teachers. Is this typical for an aspie? Any experience with this?

Well, there isn't a typical aspie. But I did that when I was little although I did hugs, rather than kisses. Maybe it's a case of trying too hard. Maybe she doesn't have the words to express her feelings.

I knew a boy who was like that, in grades 1 and 2. He ran around the school, kissing all the girls on the playground.

she should grow out of it... i used to rush round trying to be centre of attention.... (hey what do you mean "i still do"?... shut up!)

Awww, shes sounds cute.

I wouldnt make a big deal out of it, she will grow out of it eventually, and then grow back into it when she is 16.

Very true.

Z's "thing" was touching the girls' hair. He has alwats been very tactile. We had to teach him the difference between acceptable and unacceptable behavior. It did not happen overnight but he did learn. He has even stopped stroking my beard and rubbing my bald head. Be patient. If you don't have an official dx get one and start educating our educators. More of these kids are coming.

My son has that tendency too, lack of personal boundaries and all that. I emphasize the need to ask permission first. One thing my son also has a knack for is finding and befriending the undiagnosed special needs kids in class. They form this hug club (guys!). I think it's great. Kissing is a bit much in school, try to redirect her to hugging.

That's a situation that would be perfect for a Social Story. The overly affectionate issue is arising because the child doesn't understand the boys' state of mind. Behavioral approaches don't address the core problem. If you aren't familiar with social stores, check out the Carol Gray's site:

http://www.thegraycenter.org/