What a day... Just plain normal in our world (me and my ex)

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My eldest daughter was scheduled to have a small birthday party for her closest friends only today, ended up with her inviting about her whole class even though my ex explicitly told her that the only one's invited was the one decided on a list she had agreed on.... So my ex went out of cake and cookies... My ex's best friend was there fortunately enough with her youngest son. My daughter is not a AS but has DAMP/ADHD, but all went well even though there where about 10 more kids than expected on the birthday party.

The party went on well, Except for the fact I have two sons with severe ADHD, one with AS and one very suspected high level Authism, and in the stress of the birthday, one of them just could not cooperate with his body so he accidentaly smashed a window in his room, being overstressed and getting a total meltdown, so now He's in emergency after bleeding down half the house, fortunately he didn't hit any vital things like major blood vessels or tendons, but has a hand and wrist full of glass... He was so sorry, because he just could not control his body and he felt so ashamed of ruining his sisters birthday party..

I couldn't even attend her birthday party, since I'm whipped to finalize a application for the social services for support to my ex, who's the major caregiver of our children (I have even stopped saying parent, I say caregiver nowadays, and she too).... What a pesky friday to end March with....

And in the midst of all, my natural drill took off, being used to emergency, so Whilst my ex was in the car going for the emergency team waiting 5km away on our local hospital, I started to pack my bag and prepared for a night over at my ex, without even noticing I even packed... It all went on reflexes. Then I called my daughter, with a present babysitter, and instructed her what she should prepare for dinner, quick and easy and nutricious, asked her if it was a lot of glass on the floor and if she still had her friends there, and I got somewhat scared because I knew what was in my ex'es cooler and fridge better than my daughter did...

Sometimes I wish I was three people just to work things out... Now when I hear from my ex, I'll meltdown and continue. Don't have any option, and that's life.

Two major wounds stitched, the rest could be taped to avoid scares. And a hand in bandaging, a room full of glass splinters that needs to be cleaned... We mutualy agreed that we simply lock the room until we get time to clean out the glass.

One major positive thing is that we maybe finaly have made HIM understand that banging on glass windows is a bad idea....

Now I'm going to sit in the sofa until I fall asleep in the front of the TV... sigh....

ohhhhhhhh. the stress of it all ! hang in there....today will be better.

He was going to fold down the blinds (venetian blinds[?]) when the blind stuck and didn't want to go down, aparently he got annoyed by the bright sunlight disturbing him at his computer, and even as he tried to fold it right, it would not go down because it got stuck and the frustration increased.

He was also very stressed by the sounds from downstairs of the birthday party, his medication going out of his body, and he intended only to tap the window slightly to see if the blind would drop when he looses body control. This is not uncommon for him, when being unmedicated or when the medication goes out of his system. This was the first time he said he got such a intense body-tic with medication in his body (Concerta 36mg depot).

When he got into emergency he happily jumped up on the bed and laid down, carefully placing his hand on the bed, on the protctive paper so the doctor asked if he had been there before, and he happily told the doctor that he'd been there several times. (we've lost count a long time ago...)

He just tries the best he can to "blend in" but he can do nothing to help the tics. He's having both audible and tactile tics, they actually get a lot better when on medication, but doesnt go away completely.

Today my ex is completely exhausted, the parents and grandparents and other adult friends was invited... since there was so many kids yesterday, she had to buy a cake the wrong month of the pile of bills....

Well, You know for sure you are alive It's just reboot and go again.