should i say sorry to my son ?

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i did a very terrible hair cut for my son . i feel so regret ! but i told him what i did is great .you look very handsome .i am so afraid now if his friends who told him how terrible his hair is ! i am think what should i say when he asked ? should i apologize ?

Why not just tell him that you think you missed a few places and maybe you could have gotten it more even in others and then take him to the barber tomorrow to get it fixed? It's not a big deal really, especially for boys. You can always go shorter with a boy and just give him a buzz cut. I gave both my boys buzz cuts every summer because it was cooler and easier. They both have very thick hair, one straight and one curly. My older son with the straight hair still keeps his hair buzzed because he likes it. The younger one keeps his cut and styled. The older one is the redneck one with that no mustache Amish type beard and wears a hat all the time with a fish hook on it and the younger one is the one who is 110% dressed all the time Guido style lol. The younger one would have freaked over a bad haircut, the older would have just put on a hat and said oh well. So, it depends on how your son is with his hair and things in general. My younger one is a drama queen so that would have been horrible for him. I never would have attempted it. He's the one who I think is a little bit aspie like I am but he's not interested in going to the dr about it.

So, you can take him to a barber tomorrow, or just get out the clippers and cut it shorter tonight or even go on Youtube and find another shorter cut with instructions and try to fix it yourself, or just put a hat on him. How old is he and how important is his hair to him?

Also, you can tell him that you don't think you did as good a job as a professional and tell him you are sorry that you didn't, and that you will take him to get it fixed if he wants you to. Be glad he's a boy and that you can just buzz cut him if need be, if that was a girl then you could end up with problems for months from a bad haircut.

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Me? I would tell him HE is very handsome, but I am not a very good hair-cutter.

Then I would ask him if he cares, and if he does, I would take him somewhere to get it professionally cut. I haven't cut my son's hair in a couple of years, but when I used to, if I messed up a little, he never cared, because he couldn't have cared less about what his hair looked like.

FWIW, I think apologizing to my kids when I make mistakes of any kind is one of the smartest things I have done as a parent. They appreciate that I respect them enough to admit when I am wrong and apologize for it. They are also more forgiving of my mistakes and less likely to be resentful. I also hope it demonstrates to them that it is better to be transparent and accountable, than to try to hide or minimize mistakes or to not take responsibility for them.

I agree. Basically, I've learned that if I want DS to do it, I need to model it - and that's how I navigate situations like this: what would I want my son to do in the same sort of situation.

I agree. Apologize and get it fixed.

thank you for your good advice ! you are so sweet ! i want to be a good mother and i learned i need to respect kid .even they are kid . at first i just want to coax him .but i found it was not right ! i am so embarrassed now . thank you