Bullied - but won't admit it
I have had my suspicions for a while now that my son is being bullied at school (he is 12) but he has never told me about it. Tonight I had the parent of a sixth former come round to tell me that her daughter had been witnessing my son being bullied on the bus by two 14 year old girls for a number of weeks. The sixth former has had a go at the bullies herself and will be reporting it to school on monday. She says she told my son to tell us but he said theres no point, nothing will get done about it. Obviously i was heartbroken to hear this and i have sat him down and tried to get him to tell me whats going on but he is adamant that nothing has happened and he is ok. I have told him its not his fault, he won't be in trouble, that much as i would love to i won't leap on the bus and beat these bullies up myself etc etc but i can't get him to open up and tell me whats going on. As i said before i have had my suspicions for a while becuase things have happened like he has rushed home from the bus stop looking like there were demons after him, and one time he came home soaked from head to toe and told me he had fell in a puddle which seemed a bit far fetched for how wet he was. So really i don't know to what extent this is happening but i am now worried sick and i guess just looking for some guidance and advice as to how to deal with this and how to get to the bottom of it. Anyway he won't be going to school on the bus again for a while. I guess he has little faith in the teachers supporting him as he is often in trouble himself at school for various behaviours. I will contact the school about this but obviously if he isn't admitting to me that anything is happening he is unlikely to admit it to them either.
Does the school know about his AS? You mentioned the 6th former is reporting it right? That should be all you need for an investigation. It is common for ASpies to NOT self advocate.
You need to talk to school administration about this, not teachers. If they say they "need his validation" say they won't get it, and that is not reasonable to ask, as you know someone is comming forward who has witnessed it.
my son has recently gone through a rash of bullying. It is important to get it adressed. It really has turned around for him so far, (keeping fingers crossed). I'll get you the threads In a minute...
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