My son is insatiable; willl anything including a psych help

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We are wondering if more use of a psychiatist would be of any help. We also wonder if we are being too hard in making him "normal". He takes lexapro and abilify to help him get through the day.

During summer he seems to have emotional meltdowns. He maintains about a C average in school. I also would like to know what chances are for such teens are to eventually get jobs......

I think that you should stop trying so hard. My parents tried to make me normal, and now they have a 1970s Punk Rebel on their hands.

I've grown up to dispize normal (mainstream) people and especially those, twenty and younger.

Thanks for your answer; how old are you and what are your expections for say, the next couple of years?

Also, talking about excercise. I want my son to be more active for his sake of health and just getting the excercise he needs.

Does anyone here have a problem with getting enough excercise to maintain their weight, a normal weight?

I don't know how the grading system works in the states, but in the UK a C is a reasonable grade - it definitely isn't the best, but plenty of people perform alot lot worse.

If your only concern with respects to employment is getting C's, I really wouldn't worry.

Well, I'm 18. I agree with CockneyRebel, you need to ease up on making him "normal." Seek an understanding of AS first. As for what to expect, I can't really tell you. We're all unique, and we advance uniquely too.

I'm 32, and I expect to be getting a part time job in a thrift store or second hand music store.

I don't get any exercise really. I never leave the house apart from to go to university.

Sixteen here; I can't offer parenting advice, but I would look into your son's medication more than you already have; if you have the monetary means, take him to multiple psychiatrists for multiple opinions. I only say this because I have had some extremely bad experiences with such medications in the past; many of which have left me worse off than when I began. If you can afford it, a social worker or counselor might be a good value. You've been a little unclear as to exactly how independent he is, but if he's getting C's independently, a job shouldn't be much of an issue; I can't say I've gotten anything much better than that throughout my school career. As for emotional meltdowns, he is a teenager. We grow into our emotions as our lives progress, not out of them. CockneyRebel's right, though; don't try too hard to make anyone "normal." After all, it's not the "normal" ones that go down in the history books.

You need to change your way of thinking about your son. If he is autistic you can't make him "normal". There's not a drug in the world that will do that. And to be quite frank it does appear the one's of us that are unmedicated tend to be the ones that find ways to adapt to the craziness of the outside world and go on to be self sufficient.

Exercise is a problem for everyone of his generation. Its not just him so don't blame it on the kid. The problem is people's obsession with things like video games and yes the internet that keep them sedentary. Exercising for me is difficult for many reasons I work alot, I constantly seem to have medical problems like this messed up knee that interfere with exercising, plus it costs too much to go to the gym and the weather doesn't cooperate to exercise outdoors. Its a problem for many people.

Bottomline you can't make your son normal and pressuring him to be something he is not will make him rebel more and become more of a recluse. If you want him to work find him the first job with friends or family that own a business. Finding jobs is the hardest thing for Aspies because of our lack of social skills.

I don't exercise at all, but I eat healthily, and I only eat when I'm hungry.

This is fine. So long as our son can deal with being "different" then so can we. I know he'd like a girlfriend, which at this time, is not possible.

Also my son doesn't have plans for the summer, nor does he want to make any. What to do about that?

He'd like to visit England. This is out of the question for now.

Why is the girlfriend not possible? I understand the going to England, but not the girlfriend.

About the weight, exercize and normalicy, I may be large, there are days that I don't smell too good and I walk whenever I can. I also bathe or shower every day. I have small goals for my future.Not all Aspies can grow up to be like Bill Gates. However, I can deal with the set of issues that I have, quite well.

Shoudn't everyone really have some plans for the summer; I always thought so. On the other hand, I didn't have Asperger's.

Right now, he doesn't seem to turn girls on......maybe some other time in his life.