Does any one else have a suicidal Aspie?

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My now 12 year old son was first suicidal at 9 yrs old, the Dr's put him on risperdal and he gained 45 lbs in 4 months so they changed it to abilify and he was also put on strattera for to stabilize his moods. Last April he was suicidal again and threatened to shoot himself, (only 11 yrs old then) The Dr's took him out of school to relieve stressers. He took every thing wrong and personal that the other kids did and there was some bullying he has red curly hair and glasses so he was a magnet for taunting. The Dr's also added Zoloft to the meds. This year I will be homeschooling him in 7th grade. Does anyone that has Aspergers feel this way too and what else can I do to make him see that our family love him just the way he is!! !

He also has a younger sister (10 yrs old) that is on the spectrum along with mental retardation (IQ 51) . Anyway he has no tolerance for her, he "hates" her, He is very mean and bullies her. I try to point out to him what he is doing and how he feels if someone else does it to him but he doesn't get it. I am new here and when we start homeschooling I will let him get on here too!! Thank you!

Sad to say, but I know exactly what you are talking about.

My oldest son, T, is 11 now. He'll be 12 on August 26. He first attempted suicide at age 3 by wrapping the sleaves of a sweatshirt around his throat and pulling as tight as he could.. that's how I found him when I brought his juice to him... talk about shocking! THREE years old!

I have a younger son, B.. he's 8. He's on the spectrum and while IQ is great, he's more affected. He has PDD/NOS instead of Asperger's and T used to love him to pieces. As B has gotten older, that has all changed. B makes friends easier than T and he tends to keep them better. B is quite the charmer whereas T gets picked on a lot.

Trying to explain to T that he does do things that brings angst upon himself doesn't help matters. And T has now shown he knows how to get out of trouble by threatening suicide attempts to garner sympathy as well.

It's TOUGH.

But I homeschooled him for a 1/2 year this past school year. It was the best thing I ever did for him. If you want to talk privately about these issues, feel free to email me at [email protected]

Thank you! I hate to say that i'm glad someone else is going thru this also, but it helps to know I'm not alone. I will save your e mail and write you later (it's 1:12 am and I know the kids will be up early in the morning). Are you going to home school this coming year? I did his 2nd and 3rd grade years but I'm a little worried about 7th grade! He is smarter than me! Thanks again!

hi, I'm an Aspie myself. I don't remember myself but mum recalls that the first time I mentioned that I want to kill myself is when I was six. At 15 I was diagnosed depression. Although with years of treatment, the depression seems to get better, but those suicidal thoughts has never really left me. They've always been there, I just, try not to look at them.

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Anytime...

And no, I am not going to because he has better coping skills now. I think he'll be better able to handle himself. We did some intensive therapy with him that focused on what to do, what to say, etc. I think it'll work. Plus, we removed some negative influences from his life. I hate telling my kids who to be friends with but it was his decision so it made that easier. He was able to see how this boy was influencing his behavior in a negative way and put an end to the friendship-- although it hurt because it was his only "real" friend he had for any significant amount of time.

I'm an Aspie, too. I have never contemplated suicide although I have had serious bouts of depression. The problem with actually going through with it for me is I don't like pain or pills. LOL The only pain free way I can think of is with pills. So, I wouldn't be able to do it.

Now, though, I have my sons.. so that keeps me alive. When I'm having a dark day, that is what I remember. Although my mind tries and tells me they're better off without me, a sense of self-preservation kicks in and wont' let me believe that... luckily.

My first husband killed himself.. and if those thoughts ever rise up, please make sure you tell someone professional about them...

hi heatherbabes,

haha, pills is the only way i could do as well, coz im damn scared of pain...
Last time I wanted to take all the anti-psychotic + sleeping pills I have... I take them really slowly, one by one...
so...I fell asleep when I've only taken 3 sleeping pills LOL that was exactly what I plan, sedate myself before I do something more serious.
My parents, my bf anf my puppy are the ones that's keeping me alive. I dont want them to be sad sad becoz im gone.

I don't have any advice, other then I'm on the other end of it. And it sucks.