Letting Go

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Has anyone had to cope with letting go of helping your child or relative on the spectrum? When they don't want your help even thought they need it? When you know that they are heading towards disaster, but they don't want help preventing it?

I would say it depends on the size of the disaster and the consequences.
If it is a small disaster, then it is ok to let them learn from their mistakes.
But if it is big disaster with long-lasting consequences, it is best to help to prevent if you see it coming.
If they don't ask you for help, perhaps they don't know how to ask, but they may want your help if you offer it.

And it depends on age and your relationship to the "relative." If it not your own child or the child is independent but making bad decisions and does not want help, I don't see how one could interfere.

If they ask for some help but not all of what you want to give, it becomes more complex.

btbnnyr: I think it could become a huge disaster. They don't want help, but say they may become suicidal.

ASDMommyASDKid: Very close, and an adult. Will take limited help but wants to be independent.