09 May 2007, 11:17 pm
I was trying something new w/Sport_Rulz and he didn't like that idea.
Evidentally, his sheet started coming off the bed last nite. So I told him to try & put it back on.
Good idea I thought, but............he didn't listen to what I had to say.
So, he wouldn't try, got mad then took all sheets & comforters off the bed. Even, the pillow case off the pillow. Then, I told him I would help him tomorrow since he did that while being mad. Tonite, he decided that he want to try, (after sreaming for 20 min that I was mean) 
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But w/l'tl help he got the sheet on, then actually did the rest by himself. 
I just keep trying to get him to try things, but have learned just small steps is best. This is the 1st time he has made the bed mostly by himself w/out sheets on it.
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09 May 2007, 11:41 pm
10 May 2007, 6:33 pm
10 May 2007, 8:37 pm
Food hasn't been bad here. We started young and at dinner time we would introduce stuff, plus being anemic (hates to have his finger pricked-seen as a form of torture) he will eat stuff he don't like just 'cuz he knows he needs the extra iron to avoid having his finger pricked.
Corsarzs: Sure, just let me get little bit cleaning her room. Battle w/a 4yo such fun. 
Right now it takes her a week to clean her room, then it gets messy on the weekend and we start all over again.
10 May 2007, 8:42 pm
Little bit wants to type something so here it is:
peanut 
mom 
11 May 2007, 5:41 am
11 May 2007, 6:39 am
Food is a huge issue around here. What food is touching what food on the plate (I am amazed he can eat a burger or a pizza... oh wait, a veggie on the pizza "distorys" it, I forgot! 
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I try to give as much advanced warning about things as possible, especially medical things, like doctors appointments, vision checks or dental appointments so I have a few days to "talk it over" and answer questions about it with my son so going into the apointment, he knows what to expect and that he isn't "dying"!
Last week I informed him I would like him to see the eye doctor for a check up. I want his near sightedness evaluated, as I wonder if it is responsible for his reading problems. This opens up a whole "can of worms" discussion on his reading and vision, but by the end he is ok with it all.
So, he goes off to school, and his grade 2 reading buddy is struggling with reading, sounds like he too has reading "issues". So, my son pulls the book further away from his face and holds it out and asks him if that is "better". The child says it is! He says that the words are not jumping all over the page! So it sounds like this kid does indeed have some sort of reading "issue" as words should not be "jumping" on the page, but my son launches into a discussion about how he probably is "far sighted" and needs to see an eye doctor!" The boy flips out and worries that something 'terribly wrong with him!" My son does his best to assure him "no, nothing is wrong, but you should see an eye doctor because maybe you will read better with reading glasses!" he then informs the teacher, and the Learning Resourse Teacher, and I am sure would have followed the boy home to talk it over with his mother if he could!
We had a talk afterwards about dispensing medical advice may not be the best idea, especially to a 7/8 year old boy! I suggested in the future if he observes something like that, and he really wants to tell someone, maybe just say something to the boys teacher! But, then again, who knows, maybe the boy is far sighted and will "benifit" from my 12 year olds "diagnosis!"
12 May 2007, 7:26 am
Love it. Z will eat ham and pineapple pizza. If that is not available he will eat another kind but only under much protest.
So, he goes off to school, and his grade 2 reading buddy is struggling with reading, sounds like he too has reading "issues". So, my son pulls the book further away from his face and holds it out and asks him if that is "better". The child says it is! He says that the words are not jumping all over the page! So it sounds like this kid does indeed have some sort of reading "issue" as words should not be "jumping" on the page, but my son launches into a discussion about how he probably is "far sighted" and needs to see an eye doctor!" The boy flips out and worries that something 'terribly wrong with him!" My son does his best to assure him "no, nothing is wrong, but you should see an eye doctor because maybe you will read better with reading glasses!"
he then informs the teacher, and the Learning Resourse Teacher, and I am sure would have followed the boy home to talk it over with his mother if he could!We had a talk afterwards about dispensing medical advice may not be the best idea, especially to a 7/8 year old boy! I suggested in the future if he observes something like that, and he really wants to tell someone, maybe just say something to the boys teacher! But, then again, who knows, maybe the boy is far sighted and will "benifit" from my 12 year olds "diagnosis!"
This is a great story. Sounds like a youngster i would love to meet.
We've also found the "Early warning System" is the best way to go.
12 May 2007, 8:32 am
12 May 2007, 12:38 pm
When you take a different route just explain it. It's faster at this time of day, or I forgot to turn there. I have found that honesty w/different routes helps. Even w/4yo. She helped a friend find our house this week. But, my 2 have learned w/me occasionally I get so into my own thoughts while driving I frequently pass my turn. There are times when I get mad at myself, since it is a time when the other route would be faster & I'm already late. 
But I just let them know I am mad at myself. They do pretty good w/it that way though. If we don't explain it then we get 500 questions until the 8 yo is satisfied. My DH frequently does this. You'd think he would learn.
12 May 2007, 9:06 pm
Different routes are fun, Z loves to read the directions Cor writes fo me, to make sure i get to the right place. I don't know how I ever manager the first 40 years without him.
13 May 2007, 6:31 am
13 May 2007, 7:30 am
Ok, I just read over your blog, perhaps some of the things you say could let you "fit in" with "NT thinking" a bit more, and not stand out as an aspie, but there is no way you could begin to teach this to a 5 year old or 10 year old or 16 year old "aspie". this type of thinking would have to come from a deep routed desire inside an individual, it can't be superimposed on someone else. Even TRYING to do this with a child would probably lead to their feeling unacceptable damaged and broken. I think a lot of parents initially DO try to do this with their kids, "make them think and behave more normally" whatever that is, it leaves kids with low self esteem and thinking something must be very wrong with them.
If you can "fix" yourself then great, you want to give some advice to others who want some "rules" for fitting in, fine, but we can't superimpose this on other people, like our children.
13 May 2007, 8:16 am
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