I'm thinking my son as Aspergers

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I had to talk to my son about an inappropriate comment he made to a young girl. Prior to talking to him I sought help from a therapist. I described my son to her and this was the first time that any ever mentioned that he might have Aspergers. He is highly functional, but he is emotionally immature. It is difficult for him to show affection. I have always thought he was just shy. Now I look back on his childhood and I know I was ignorant to certain signs that I should have paid attention to and sought help on.


He is very upset today and thinks he is alone. Talking to him, telling him how much we love him, letting him no that we will always love him didn't help. The comment was made to a family member and they want nothing to do with him. He is hurt and refuses to seek help, I'm sure he feels that there is nothing wrong with him and the only problem is that he has no friends and now has lost part of his family.

I can't force him into coaching he is 24 years old. I love him unconditionally, but I'm not sure he knows that.

Have you mentioned your feelings to your son? He possibly feels somewhat betrayed that you have spoken to a therapist about him without consultation from him, especially given his age (I'm 20 and would feel extremely annoyed about intrusion, even with good intent - I have an aversion to seeking help from people)

Sometimes, infact very often, with a certain member of my family I am very tempted to complete rip into them (the person in question is an arogant MD who thinks he knows everything). I bite my tounge so that his kids don't see it.
Although what he said was obviously wrong from what you have written, was it possibly deserved? Sometimes, no matter how hurtful something is - they truly need to here it otherwise they will never improve. (I have just realised this only applies if 'inappropriate' refers to an extremely critical insulting comment, but not sexually innappropriate - could you tell us what he actually said maybe?)

Just wanted to alert you to a highly overlapping diagnosis with less stigma than autism. It's called Non-Verbal Learning Disability, and is about 95% the same in presentation as Asperger's.