Today is a down day, can I vent?

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I have been working so hard on all the school issues only to hit brick walls and I am feeling the pressure today. I have tried to busy myself with the forum here and working on all the paperwork I have, but I just want to scream or cry or something. It's Saturday and that means they are all home at once, now I love them home, but it is like a three ring circus. 'Stop squeaking your shoes to upset your brother", " You have to accept another person point of view as thier opinion, you can't hit them for disagreeing", "please try something else other than Spam to eat" and so on and so on. I am just not up to it today. Share with me what you all do on these days.

Who are them?

Make yourself anything over than spam. 'Try' it and claim you don't like it.

I've been exactly where you are today -- I've been there all week!

I say wallow in it for today, maybe for the weekend. Give yourself a break. Sometimes, it just does get to be too much, and you need a chance to take care of yourself for a moment, before you have the energy that it takes to take care of your kids and fight with the school.

I hope next week is much better, for the both of us!

Kris

I hear you sister!!

I have 3 boys (1 aspie, 1 probabe aspie - diagnosis in 3 weeks and 1NT who loves to stir).

They bicker constantly and somethings I feel like sticking my fingers in my ears and screaming.

Husband is also Aspie so he can't tolerate noise and often 'hides' in the garden. I'm fine with accepting the way he is and his hiding out in the garden but ... sometimes I can't take it either.

I'm having a bad day today. Husband didn't buy me a present for mothers' day because 'you're not my mother' but a present for his mother (who has been unsupportive of aspie diagnosis).

Here I am ranting again when I've already had a whinge in the 'Get it off your chest' forum.

I guess we all have days where it gets too much.

Next weekend I'm going to stay with my parents all by myself. I can nap and don't have to listen to bickering children!

I have bad days too. It is ok to have them. My mother is in town "shudder" so I am not allowed to have feelings for the next two weeks.

*sigh*.

Keep pushing the school next week. If not monday, go in on Tuesday, put things in writting, they can't ignore writting and pretend it was not said. I found with my sons school, that they fought the hardest with me right before they cracked! I have a meeting with an ASD team at the school board at end of month, computer funding request is submitted and that was initiated by the school and I have all the exceptions I wanted in my sons IEP, even if I have a few kinks to work out on the classroom level.

The fact they are pushing back, means you are getting somewhere. No matter what, there are only a few more weeks to go!

I know I mentioned this before, but I got our family a set of wireless headphones, they are a God Send! I can put them on the ears of my Aspie if he needs a "time out" from the noise in the room, or I can put them on one of the younger ones if they want to watch some Dora repeat that none of us can stomach to watch again, or even I have not been beyond taking a time out with them, putting them on, and telling my son to let me know if anything "major" happens, I think that is as close as I will get to his "babysitting" but it is great! He will even DJ my music for me off of youtube if I don't mind listening to the occasional GhostBuster Theme song or Weird Al!

Thanks everyone, it's nice to know I'm not alone. Wait isn't that what I want,lol. I decided to go crazy cleaning my house yesterday and what do ya know the kids scattered in different directions or figured out they better be quiet or they would get put to work...hahaha. It helped to just do something that seemed like a huge task and get it done. I guess I have faced so many failures lately maybe I just needed to accomplish something, even if it wasn't something big or really important.

I am looking into the head phones, for sure because if I have to hear Calliou one more time I am gonna scream.

I'm sending hugs out to everyone and the good part is that with online hugs you don't have to be touched.

So many things to do
Each day is something new
I'll share them with you
I'm Caillou!

Thanks.... Its stuck in my head now!

Beats yesterday, with a Thomas the Tank engine saying over and over again "hes dreadfully rude... I feel Quite ashames, hes dreadfully rude... I feel quite ashamed!

Maybe if you can't afford the wireless ones yet, you could get a pair of industrial ear muffs!

You can come clean my house if you run out of things to clean!

I need to vent a little.

Today I could not get my son to school. He "says" that he hurt his ankle yesterday (although he appeared fine) and I could not get him to go to school this morning. He is hopping around the place, moaning and groaning about his foot! I told him "fine, you can stay home but you have to work on your science project and we will do some math later to study for your test". But now he is "dizzy" and "too hot" and "faint" and overall being very melodramatic! I know the second my mother walks in the door, 90% of this stuff is going to finally 'resolve itself!"

*Sigh* I am trying to bite my tounge and just get through the day not playing into it all! It is hard though, very very hard. I have a million things to do today, and now with him home I have to control the noise level of the younger kids, and contend with all that stuff! Oh gosh, I told him to have a break and he found the strength to fill a water gun and take it to the back yard with his younger brother and sister!

I am really hoping I can get him to school for the afternoon for his english classes... How many more weeks until school is out? I think the nice weather is really what is killing him! If it was not for his missing so much over the bullying in late march / early april, taking a week to go to his grandparents at Easter, then promptly breaking his arm, I would just let him have the week off with my mother! But it is really a make it or break it point for the term, he really has to go unless I just want to throw my hands up and say "forget it". I nearly have 1/2 a mind to do just that! But then I loose so much of the ground I have made with him with the school, afterall, why are they going to pull all the stops for a child whose flakey mother does not even make him go? It will be much harder on him next year if he does not go at least somewhat regularly right now! Afterall, the school is now advocating for him with the board to get him a lap top! I have to meet them 1/2 way too right?

Now my 4 year old is crying that she is all wet... from being shot with the watergun!

If I don't laugh about it, I am going to cry!

I am so sorry you are having a bad day. I hope it gets better for you this afternoon. It will be summer break soon. Does he have to attend summer services?

I am having the same issues with the 16 year old. I have to push myself so hard somedays to get past the "The hell with it" attitude and make him go. He is in school to day so far, but it's about time for him to start text messaging me to come home. I dread it. I keep thinking, they said they would test him, but if he's not there how can they?

It is amazing the recoveries these kids can make in a few hours,lol. Just the other day mine was laying on the floor sure he was dying from appendicitis, and couldn't go to school. Wouldn't you know it, by afternoon he was screaming at me about what was for lunch. Some days you know they are so full of it and then there are the days you aren't sure and then what do you do, you can't send them, what if they are really sick?

Thanks;

My son went for the afternoon, my mother came over mid morning and I don't know how to read her, she was puzzled as to why he was not at school, but seemed equally annoyed that I was working with him and not cleaning the house. I asked her to bring the younger ones to the backyard so we could have some quiet, and she made a face. I think she thought I was being mean to him because I was helping him rewrite a paragraph. He did a great job at school with the rough draft with his teacher scribing! Everyone was amazed at home, they had no idea he could write that well! It was a perfect rough draft, but I knew it was pretty lacking in some areas as far as content, so I was helping him beef it up a bit. Not an easy task, but we where doing well with it! My mother could not begin to fathem "why" I was correcting it though, it was "fine" apparently... yeah right mom, fine enough for a "C" with todays standards... I am fine with C's, and trust me my son brings home a lot of them, and their kissing cousin, the "D" I don't put a lot of stock in grades, but my son does! If he fails to pull off a B with this, it will devistate him, as he is working so hard and needs to see it with the damn letter grade!

Anyway, this evening plans to be a real joy with getting ready for his math test, I am hoping against hope that my husband comes home a little early and can maybe take the kids to the park. Wishful thinking this week, he is swamped at work!

BTW, she told me that his mortal injury was not a trick she was unfamiliar with, she recalls my legs suddenly becoming "broken" when I was asked to go clean my room a time or two...

Well he is home today.....absolute refusal to go to school and a very fowl mood. He is over 6 feet tall and weighs in at about 250LBS so it's not like I can pick him up and take him. No one at the school has even approached him about testing yet and that is the only reason he went Monday and Tuesday.

He is coming to terms a little more with the dx I think. He has just passed the pissed off about having AS part and started accepting that this is the reason for some of his feelings. Now we will start working on the, you don't get excused from the rules just because you are AS part,lol.

I am really not comfortable with the bipolar dx at all, it just doesn't fit him, but I am not sure it's wrong either. The therapists words to the school I think summed it all up.....

"he does exhibit significant symptoms of social phobia and bipolar disorder, however it has become apparent that his primary diagnosis is Asperger's. It is possible that he has three seperate disorders(social phobia and bipolar are frequently co morbid with asperger's) or that the social anxiety, mood swings, low frustration level and aggressive behavior he exhibits are simply symptoms of his primary diagnosis (Asperger's)."